The wonderful telephone game
I'm feeling frustrated today. SS10 overheard a conversation between my boyfriend and his parents. One week later, BM is cussing out BF for "talking about her" and "feeding her sons lies about her". Over the last few months we have had a lot of problems with SS going to BM's and telling her all sorts of stuff and then her blowing up at BF for it. Whether its what movie we watched. What we did. Who we saw. Whatever it doesn't matter.
We have talked MULTIPLE times about it being a telephone game. We have told BM not to believe every little thing, and to also stay out of our business, and we have talked to SS about this "playing both sides" (telling his mom one thing and dad another) and yet nothing has changed.
Is this just one of those things that's inevitable with stepfamilies?
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Yep... the kids will play the
Yep... the kids will play the parents against each other a LOT to attempt to get their desired results. I totally agree with Kay. Don't talk about BM AT ALL in front of SS and don't entertain phone calls where she is being aggressive. We always told all of our kids from the time they were little that what goes on inside of our home does NOT go anywhere else... to friends or anything (we never mentioned bio parents specifically, but that was part of why we made that such a big deal). Of course that doesn't always help, but it teaches them about respect and privacy. And it has worked better with our younger children that have ALWAYS heard this than it ever did with the older ones.
my ss is always going back
my ss is always going back and telling BM what goes on in our house and what was said. he even changes the story to fit him and then tells her, just so she will call and yell at FDH. FDH tells her to stay out of it and that ss is not telling her the whole truth, and nothing EVER happens. (ss is 17 almost 18)