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Update on Bm saying she is disabled and that ss15 hates dh.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Mon, 12/27/2010 - 11:31am

Ok so in my last blog about this I said that bm said that ss15 hates dh b/c it is all dh's fault that bm is disabled for leaving her as a single mom and she had to work for about a year 5 years ago. And b/c of all the sacrifices she has had top make being a single mom combined with her working for a year is dh's fault and ss15 hates dh b/c of that.

Anyway ss15 has come to our house several times since then and has never mentioned anything about it. Not one word and has been his usual self. Meaning he has played and laughed and done everything that a normal 15 year would do. Now what does that tell you???? Plus there has been no more mention of it from bm. I'm wondering if she will try to get on disability???? I wold love to be a fly on the wall when they laugh her out of there. }:)

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Mon, 12/27/2010 - 12:37pm

No he didn't. I told him he should. Dh just keeps dismissing it. I think ss15 is way old enough and he understand way more than dh thinks he does. Which was proven when he said that his dad wasn't looking forward to "happy time" with his m,om when they were married. I know that ss15 knows that they weren't good for each other and can't be together with just that statement. SOOO WHY doesn't dh say anything??? I don't know but I think I just might when they come here on wednesday. Sh will be at work so I'll just causally mention it. I bet I'll get a response of HUH????? from ss15! I bet ss15 didn't didn't say crap and bm is making it all up.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Mon, 12/27/2010 - 12:54pm

I never got that either. If someone told me that one of my kids hated me, I would darn sure ask them about it. Are the DH’s SOOOO afraid that BM might be telling the truth?

You may be surprised to find that your SS really did say that. But he may have said that because he thought he had to in front of BM. Either way…it needs to be dealt with ASAP.

I am usually about the steps staying out of issues like this and letting the bio take care of it…but in this case I don’t see what it would hurt to mention something about it. Just to see what SS says. Keep us posted.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Mon, 12/27/2010 - 1:49pm

Yeah I was thinking of just asking "how do you feel about your dad?" but I can say that me and the boys get along for the most part. As I said that ss15 has no idea that he hates his dad. I bet that ss15 did say that he didn't want to come just so bm will leave him alone though. I can see that as bm is always badgering the boys about what happens at our house. He felt that if he can just tell her what she wants to hear she wills hut up and if he doesn't come back she will shut up for good. I really think that is what he was thinking.