Update on SS's Cell phone
Husband and I agreed that if SS didn't pay the agreed upon portion of his cell bill (not even the full amount of the bill) on time we were going to suspend the phone and/or shut it off. Well husband didn't want to tell SS he needs to pay his bill on time because he didn't want to hurt his fragile 24 year old feelings so husband sent ss a text that said "since buttercookie is out of work you need to get your own phone with in the week, money is tight" Which is NOT what we discussed and money isn't that tight, a very small portion of it is even about the money, its about SS's attitude we should just pay his way. Well SS started texting back "how much is the cheapest plan" husband asked me that, I looked at him and said what is this about? you know I don't work at ATT and can't tell you. Well SS went to ATT and found out that it's cheaper to pay us the $40 a month he agreed to pay. The cheapest plan with data and texting since he has a "smart phone" is going to run him over $80/month with taxes and since he goes over the 2 GB cap every month (we were grandfathered in on unlimited) his bill will even be higher. SS now wants to stay on our plan. I wasn't kicking him off of it. I just asked H to have his kid start paying his bill and paying it on time. He was suppose to pay it by the 15th. No biggie if he was a day or two late but he started paying Feb bill on Feb 20 and when asked for march he'd say he paid it early, which he didn't he paid feb late and tried to make it look like he paid March early.
Well to shorten the story up, SS wants to stay on our plan, since Husband texted what he did and contradicted what he and I agreed on my answer is "Hell feaking NO" I told husband you texted your son he had to find a phone with in a week and I'm holding you to it. H said but thats not what we agreed to. I said I know, you renigged on what we agreed on when you texted your son something else so you broke the agreement and I'm holding you to your word. I hate the fact you always say one thing to me and do something else with the kids, Then I was told I can't disconnect the phone, WRONG answer buddy, the phone is in my name, not only CAN I but I WILL. No one tells me I can't do something. GRRRR My husband has been better with the skids but he still backslides so I have to be vigilant so my house, car and other possessions aren't taken away from me again and so I'm not treated like a guest in my own home.
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I feel ya, butter. I just
I feel ya, butter. I just went through something similar with my SS18. It's not even the money part that's so frustrating. It's the fact that DH doesn't want to hold the skid accountable.
exactly its about the holding
exactly its about the holding them accountable, believe me what SS pays doesn't cover his bill its the entitlement attitude and what makes him think we owe him a phone and not the other 3 kids we have. I really hope my skids don't breed. This asshole gene just needs to be taken out of the gene pool.
No the phone isn't off,
No the phone isn't off, Husband gave him a week and that's what he's getting and hell NO i'm not buying him a pay as you go phone especially since I'm being stuck with the early termination fee and He's 24 years old and just bought a mustang. If he can afford the life style choices he chooses car, clothes, drinking he can buy his own damn phone or go without. Besides if I did buy him a pay as you go phone it wouldn't be "good enough"
and I'm trying to get the
and I'm trying to get the skids and kids to realize that they need to stand by what they say they will do we gave him a week shutting it off before then would be going back on our word which is not the lesson I'm trying to teach. The only way it will get shut off sooner is if he starts doing what my daughter did texting international and calling 411 to jack the bill up, but I have not seen evidence of that behavior YET.
Buttercookie, I feel your
Buttercookie, I feel your pain! I am going through almost the exact same thing here. We allowed SS to be on our plan because it would be cheaper for him to pay us the monthly portion for his phone than it would have been for him to get his own plan. Well, my husband convinced me we should do it, anyway.
Guess how many payments he's made so far in 15 months? That's right -- NONE!!!!!! DH promised to be the one to deal with getting the money. Gee, he's done a great job holding SS's feet to the fire (NOT).
I've been practicing disengaging, but lately I've been biting my tongue because all I want to do is tell DH that when the end of the two years is up, SS is CUT OFF!
It is the entitlement attitude that I hate. We can absorb the cost, but it irks me to no end that this shit thinks we owe it to him. He is so "broke" but he is always able to fill his tank with gas for unnecessary trips, concerts, video games, TVs, presents for girlfriends, etc, but he doesn't attempt to pay his bill. God, my blood pressure is rising just because I'm typing about it!!!!
No that wasn't me who turned
No that wasn't me who turned off SS's phone or my husband who said I didn't give him any warning that's another member and once this phone is off it's not going back on. We are done helping any of the skids and kids with phones they are all adults and we've been burned by 3 out of 4 of them.
That was me who shut off my
That was me who shut off my SS's phone about a month ago. He hadn't paid in 3 months, I warned SS and DH multiple times and all I got in return were excuses. So I cut the phone off. DH was pissed initially, but he came around later and agreed that I did the right thing. The only way SS is getting back on my plan is by 1) paying back all the outstanding phone debt and 2) paying in advance for any future use.
Your nicer than me. SS could
Your nicer than me. SS could prepay his phone bill for the remainder of the contract and I still wouldn't turn it back on. He's 24 time to get his phone on his own and pay the full price since that's the only way he's going to learn.
it's not the economy for SS,
it's not the economy for SS, its piss poor money management. He makes over 30k a year and blows it on his car, clothes and going out. He rents a room that is someones attic it has a toilet and a sink and a short counter where he has his mini fridge and a microwave (no kitchen) it is big enough for his bed and couches. Its in horrible condition and probably should be condemed and SS has to go downstairs and through their house to shower in their shower. He can afford more he just doesn't want to because that will cut into his party cash and he likes to spend money on his car, every car he has had he obsessivly washes and he buys custom stuff for (anything that can be customized from seat covers to dashboard and wheels) and he gets tired of his custom stuff and buys different.