I have a 14 yr old SS and a 10 yr old SD. I have a BS who is 3. Recently my little guy has sputtered some curse words. When I ask him where he heard the words he says - "from you Mom." He says it with the attitude of a teenager. I NEVER say curse words in front of him. The last straw came when my 3 year old said I was being "B*tchy." I pressed him (without naming names of who I suspected) to find out who he heard this word from. I explained to him that he was too young to realize this was a bad word but that whomever said it to him should be punished...they should know not to use such words in front of a little kid. He sobbed as if truly afraid and told me he was "afraid to tell me" who said it. I asked if the person told him not to tell his mommy and he said yes. Finally he revealed it was his stepbrother. I was outraged. My husband rarely suspects his son would do anything like this so I feel totally alone in handling the situation.

Some background: Years ago when ss was 11 and bs was 17 months I actually caught my ss saying - "Your mother's a b**** to my bs. I was so hurt. I let my husband discipline most of the time but naturally having a child of my own in the house I do step in occasionally. My ss denied the whole thing and my husband made him apologize. He was given no punishment of any kind.

I'm barely on ss's case about anything and can't understand why he has such negative feelings about me. We get along fine but maybe that is just on the surface.

Do I confront my ss or let my husband deal with him? I don't want my son using these inappropriate words and I don't want him being led to believe his mommy is a "b****."