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So, I just don't know what to do. My husband wants me to move back in and I just don't know if I am ready. I thought he had made strides with actually being a father to his son instead of trying to kiss his son's a*# but I fear he took a step back. We went bowling one weekend (trying to be a "family" per our marriage counselor's advice) and it was fun! Then another weekend we went for a canoe trip and BBQ with friends who also have a son (16 though) and SS acted like a complete BRAT. I was VERY impressed with how my DH handled situation, though. Told son it was unacceptable to act that way, next time there will be consequences, etc. SS threatened to not come up this summer to see Dad. THEN the next weekend he didn't come up because he wanted to hang out with "friends". Mind you, this is the FIRST time he has EVER done that. Personally, I believe it was to punish DH. Well, I suggested going mini-golfing this weekend and DH said maybe next weekend because he didn't want to "push it" with SS. Then I said let's go canoeing again but this time have BBQ at our house and DH said "maybe not canoe AND BBQ....again don't want to "push it" with SS.....GGGGRRRRR. Hello?! Why did I move out? Because of THIS. And now he says either I move back in or we part ways, that he doesn't want a girlfriend, he wants a wife and since he was laid off a month ago, if I don't move in in August, he will have to find a roomate. Well, I am not ready. I need to spend more time as a family and see if it is going to work. I was MISERABLE. I certainly don't want to go back to THAT. I guess, my question is this: I love DH and we have a great time when it is just the two of us. SS? We peacefully coexist and get along when it is just SS and me. DO I move back and "deal" with it until SS goes to college? I know he will forever be in DH's life. That's cool and expected. But can I handle our lives revolving around SS for the next, IDK how many years? I love DH so is that enough? HELP!!!!!!