DH has a female friend that he’s known for over ten years. We’ll call her C. She has two children by two different men and has been married three times, one of which began and ended all in a matter of a few months while DH and I have been together. C goes from man to man and has a reputation for doing so. None of this makes her a bad person. However, for the past few months (since she split up with her DH), her FB status updates have consisted of things about my DH (how songs remind her of him, etc.). They’ve never been in any sort of relationship, and DH has never wanted anything more from her.

DH and I were on his FB last night (we play Who Wants to be a Millionaire?). I saw a message from C that said “i kinda wish u were still single me and all my girlfriends are coming to bg sat night, and it would be awesome if you could go, then we could crash at your place and not have to get a room haha”. I brought this to DH’s attention, as I didn’t think that a single woman should be saying this to a married man. DH agreed with me and deleted her. Let me make it clear that I 100% trust DH. It’s this chick that I don’t trust. I haven’t been too keen on her from the beginning but because “BM didn’t like her”, I tried to give her a shot. Now, I see why.
Later, I sent C a message. I wasn’t trying to be rude.

Me: I would appreciate it if you could refrain from sending your "I wish you were still single" messages to my husband. Thanks.

Her: Umm excuse me that was a joke about me him Max and his neighbor.. I don't appreciate u sending me a message assuming I'm out of line, Josh and I have been friends since we were 19 yrs old, I was his friend when u met. him I was tickled for him when u two got engaged and I was at your wedding h happy for the both if u!!!!! If u would have ever taken the time to have gotten to know me u would have realized what kind of person I am, and that is not a homewrecker!!!! I'm sorry u felt like I was out of line, but I would appreciate it if u wouldn't message me assuming inappropriate things about our friendship he is like a bro to me and if u knew me at all u would know that, but all the attempts I made to reach out to u when yall first got married u rejected!! I'm sory for making u think any different I value the meaning of marriage, and I'm sorry you did not know that. Thanks
Me: Whatever, C. It doesn't matter if it was a "joke" or not. I suppose saying things like that to married men is the reason people say what they say about you.

Her: Well that is a very disrespectful thing to say to someone you don't even know... And secondly you don't even know anybody that knows me.... That's really all I have to say
Disrespectful? Disrespectful is sending a married man a message, wishing that he was still single so that she could stay the night. Let me also add that this chick never ONCE tried to get to know me. DH and I went out with her and her DH-of-the-month one time since we’ve been together. I never called her a “home wrecker”, but she sure was awfully defensive about it.

I just wanted to get that out.