I was very happy to see this site. Let me tell you a little about me....I am married for the second time to a wonderful man. I have 2 boys ages 20 and 14 from my previous marriage. My first husband was, well lets say not good for me. ( I dont want to bash him, were finally on good terms after 5 years).

My husband now of 1 year I met about 1 year after I divorced. 3 years later we were married. Something I thought I would never do again. But..... He has a 16 year old daughter now. When I first met her she was very nice. Now....Well let me just say she was brought up completely different from my boys...She is very spoiled and I'm not saying my boys aren't but this little girl goes beyond. Her both parents have made her believe that life revolves around her. What she says goes and as she is getting older this is getting much worse to the point now that when she is with us which is supposed to be 2 days a week and everyother weekend (which sucks BTW) our lives are asking her if she wants to do stuff and if she says no we don't do it. I have had it!!! for ex. we had family (his family) come down from out of town. We went to the beach after the beach they asked us (since I was alone with my son and SD) if we would like to go for a cook out that night. Of course I said yes that would be great. When I called my husband I told him about the cook out. He asked me did you ask SD....AHHH NO!!!! he said well ask if she wants to go. When i refused to ask her I put her on the phone. She proceeded to tell dad no I don't want to go. He was actually thinking of not going until i said I am going with my son, you don't want to go stay home with her.... He ended up going and she came and sulked the whole time. It was ridiculous.... But usually when she says no he wont go.....it is to the point that when we have her our lives are on hold, my youngest life is on hold because we have to bend over backwards because SD is over. And lately BM has not been taking her when she is supposed to because she cant handle her....and the switch is last minute like the day before. my children dont like her espicially the youngest due to she is not very nice to him and when i discussed this with BD he says there different people and SD gets aggravated easily. TO BAD!!!!! no need to be mean. Oh and respect yayyyy NONEEEEE!!!! its like I don't know what to do and as she is getting older its getting so much worse. NEED ADVICE!!!!