We are invited to SO's aunt's house for Thanksgiving. He has to work today so we can't be there until this evening. We think the In Laws invited BM to come this morning.

SO asked SD last night, "Is your mom going to be at Thanksgiving tomorrow?"

"No. I'm driving myself and SS."

"Are you sure?"

"Yes, she said you didn't want her to come."

I think BM said this to make everyone mad at SO, since BM is the golden shining prize of his family and will never be replaced. They're all going to freeze us out when we get there.

At that point, I think BM "hadn't decided" whether she was going to go or not. If we find out she's going, we're going to cancel. The In Laws have this weird plan of deception where they try and get us there in "shifts" and don't let on that's the plan. It's disrespectful to me and to SO.

The saddest part of this is that they are losing their son. They have alienated him so badly already it's not going to take much to get him to a place of "no contact" with them. This hurts me too, very badly, but I have my own family. These are his parents.