Getting worse every day

Ss has refused to talk to anyone since he got here. Even in school this week, he wouldn't even talk to the teachers. He got detention one day but they realized he was not talking to anyone. They know his history and they are letting it slide. A couple of days ago Ss finally talked and said things that made my Dh cry in front of him. My Dh never cries in front of Ss but Ss told him he broke his heart and it was too much for my Dh to take.

And it went back to not talking after that. He scared the daylights out of us yesterday. He went biking. He usually goes with my Dh but he refuses to go with him now. He was gone for 5 hours yesterday. He came back after it got completely dark. My Dh and I were driving around everywhere in our cars. We even had my sister in law to help. He just walked in, drenched in sweat, refused to tell us where he went, showered and just headed to bed. We almost had a heart attack. My goes to tell Ss is grounded. It is such a pointless punishment really. Ss lives like he is grounded anyway.

Now the bike is locked up. It has gotten so much worse after sending him to the school. He has lost a lot of weight. He had been running on the treadmill for hours until my Dh just cut the power cord off. He is wasting away. He leaves half of his food all the time. Maybe the medication is making him lose his appetite but we don't know because he won't tell us. Any attempts to talk to him just gives us a glare. He even refuses to speak to therapists and the psychiatrist. We are just struggling to cope.

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We tried sending him to a

We tried sending him to a therapeutic school. It ended in a disaster. He refused to use the washroom there because it was a communal one. He had constipation, wetting himself. He cried every time we called him. It was affecting his health so we brought him home. Even the school suggested taking him home might be a god idea. He tried committing suicide before, a few years back. So we keep checking on him. The therapist says give him time. It has been two weeks now. He hates us for suspecting him of possibly hurting my son. He told my Dh that "It has been years since I felt this bad and its all because of you this time." He does not trust us any more and wants to do nothing with us. It is getting very difficult to help him.

Thanks for the hugs Mazzy.

We tried a therapeutic school

We tried a therapeutic school with psychiatrists and therapists within the building. It was a huge disaster. It sucks because SS was doing ok with us but we sent him there based on a lie my son told. We found out the truth after we sent him there but the damage was done. Even the school told us to take him home because it was affecting his health to stay there.

We could never do that. We

We could never do that. We just couldn't. There is no way the idea would even come up.

Thanks nosteppingstone. I

Thanks nosteppingstone. I hope you weren't offended by what I said earlier.

You are completely right

You are completely right about the mentally ill. They were pieces of s*** who deserve to burn in hell.

He has gone way past testing us, believe me. He openly resents us now. He was ok with us until we sent him to the school, which was a terrible idea.

And we can't homeschool. We both work and we aren't really equipped for homeschooling. Thank you for your prayers.

I understand exactly what you

I understand exactly what you are saying melissa. Ss's therapists have told us the same thing. Are you a therapist? We have given him the speech of it was not his fault etc. Those talks do not go well AT ALL. It ends with him screaming at us. So we leave all of that to the therapists. He will not have it from us.

And my Dh once tried the God has a plan for all of us thing. More screaming from Ss, yelling he doesn't believe in God. He refuses to go to church with us and my Dh has stopped too in order to stay at home with him. I think all of us lost a little faith after what Ss went through.

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