well, I put my foot down..........
I told my DH that i am sick and tired of his x calling and him talking to her every second day on his way home from work- if she calls, ignore it and call her back when he gets home- he agreed and said "never again" and he is sorry if he hurt me. I will see how long this last- its been a a couple of years that i have kept my mouth shut and it has bothered me for so long... i dont mind them talking, but the conversation lingers on and on if I am not around... i dont think either of them would do anything, but the connection that they still share bugs me, they are both their daughters biggest cheerleader... I was married before this and dealt with an X wife, but they didnt have this "close relationship" like my DH and his x do.... i am all for drama free parenting/stepparenting, but i cannot share my husband with another woman.......... can you relate?
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How old is your DH's kid?
How old is your DH's kid? What do they talk about? My DH's kids were teens when he and his ex split, and I don't think he's talked to her more than 10 times in the last 10 years. No need for it.
Good for you for letting him know how you feel. At least he now knows.
she is 15... I blogged last
she is 15... I blogged last night about how they (him and x) act like best friends- i cant handle it anymore. I have avoided drama and not wanting her to know how I really feel- but it affects me emotionally, and i cant do it anymore.
One of our BMs does
One of our BMs does this...calling all the time thing. On her end it's harmless, I realize she's so self absorbed she doesn't realize it's disruptive. But he has 6 children here and one on the way, and a lot of responsibility as far as spreading his attention. He really doesn't have time for that.
He asked her to send emails if she needs something that is a non emergency, and he'll email her back when he has time. It gives him to digest whatever she's saying and it cuts down on the chit chatty stuff that soaks up so much time. She can still call if she needs something, but he usually doesn't answer the phone. Just lets it go to voicemail and if it's truly pertinent he calls her back. It's done wonders for productivity around here. Lol.
Glad your hubby is getting on board.
My X calls me ALL THE
My X calls me ALL THE TIME...Drives me crazy...I know it bugs his wife but according to him he doesnt care....Wish she would put her foot down and the calls would STOP!!!!!! My DH wants to slap him around soon.....its been years we have not been together
What are they talking about?
What are they talking about? And why? There's really no need to if the kid is 15!!! My DH hasn't talked to his x in almost 4 years. Not once. No need to. There's email and if necessary there's text. I would be PISSED if I was you!! You are his significant other now-- not her! If I was you I would ask him to let the next conversation be the last, asking her to not call unless it's an emergency! And if she needs to discuss something about SD (only) she can email. And then he needs to do his part which is-- don't answer the phone! If she leaves a vm and it's "omg SD is hurt/ in hospital" etc then he can call her back. If she texts, answer only if it's about SD and only if necessary. Tell him your feelings. He is hurting you and disrespecting your relationship.
I just read your other blog..
I just read your other blog.. They way you describe their conversations, it sounds like they have an "emotional" attatchment. Or an "emotional" relationship. IMO a husband shouldn't have an emotional relationship with any woman other than his wife! (well; mom, daughter, sister-- thats diff) but I think your feelings are valid and you should tell him. It's not right.
Im not saying that this is
Im not saying that this is the case in this situation but A LOT OF TIMES they know exactly what they are doing. If hubby is on the phone with her, he isnt talking to you. They do it because they can and it shows you that they still play a big part in their lives whether you like it or not. Like i said it may not be the case here but i have heard it plenty and dealt with it