Child Support
I am new to this website and wanted to know if anyone knows what child support pays for. I live in CA and a step mother. My husbands ex told us that she is having my step daughter try out for cheerleading and our half of the cost is around $500.00. The child support he pays is about $500 per month now. Do most child support agreements include food/shelter? And do we have to pay the extra money?
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What does the court order
What does the court order say? If it doesn't say anything about extracurricular activities, don't give her the money for this activity. Tell her to take it out of cs.
If you don't have a court order, get one and don't leave any stone unturned in it. Make sure it covers everything from paying for extracurricular activities and medical right down to who will do the driving to exchange the kids.
I'm in Santa Barbara. Please let me know if I can help.
it depends on your state's
it depends on your state's rules. Here in NY, there is a set percentage of the NCP's gross income and then they tack on extracurricular stuff, out of pocket stuff etc. In reality they can go back with all the receipts and demand to the courts that you pay half. You live in one of the UN-friendly NCP biodad states so you'll probably end up paying for it. The CP parent is *supposed* to consent with the NCP parent before making decisions in NY, but that rarely happens and is rarely enforced. In my case it NEVER happens. The BM does what she wants and tells GG about it afterwards by presenting him with a bill. Lately, (knock on wood) she had not contacted us because the three skids have PASed out but it's only a matter of time, even though GG is paying for daycare via CS that she hasn't used in over 3 years now.
"Child support is to maintain
"Child support is to maintain the standard of living the child would have enjoyed if the parents were married and living together."
I very much agree with this, but sadly, a lot of BMs create this new lifestyle for themselves and the kids off of CS support. My fdhs original support at 600/mo was just disgusting (we're in GA). At the time of the divorce, both parents were unemployed and living with their parents.
With BM still living off of others (she moved into a BF's house after her moms), and working only 1-2 days a week, and FDH is once again unemployed and living with me, what kind of standard of living are we really trying to compete with here?
Sorry I just had to comment on this.
Here...it is cigarettes, fast
Here...it is cigarettes, fast food, and lottery tickets....but CS is OVER in 3 months! (paying for an 18 year/almost 19 old who needs to graduate high school).
What state are you in kayro?
What state are you in kayro? I went to read your bio.. nothing there.
I very much agree that 500 is
I very much agree that 500 is a lot of money. I also understand how things are different, VERY different when you are on the receiving end, whereas most of the time what you get is NEVER enough, and youll always want/'need' more. We are on the giving end and EVERY month if that money stayed in our household we would definitely be able to have a much different lifestyle.
I also know that BM would not have a new car, or new clothes or go to concerts etc.. if she was not on the receiving end.
I know there are lots of families out there that dont get the CS they need, and many dads that cant give the CS that is ordered.
ok, 380USD a month, plus your
ok, 380USD a month, plus your wife should contribute at least the same 380, is 760USD a month...wether that is 1% of your income or not, is really irrelevant...if you can't support a kid on 760USD a month, there is a big problem. Now if you want to give them every darn thing that is out there, that's not the BFs problem either.