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Another Blog got me thinking...How many of us have used the word NEVER when it comes to our Stepkids?

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Submitted by Jsmom on Wed, 03/14/2012 - 4:28pm

I have told DH several times, that SD15 is NEVER coming back into this house. I will move out and will consider divorce without hesitation. She has pushed me to this place with her lies and manipulation. I know there are others of us that feel the same way.

Why are we wrong for saying NEVER? We have been pushed here by the Steps and their behavior. You push us again and again and eventually we stop taking the abuse and draw a line in the sand...I feel bad it came to this with SD, but I will not allow her back into this house. She is toxic and my loyalty is to my sons and that includes my SS13. I have to do what is in their best interest and my own.

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Submitted by stepintexas on Wed, 03/14/2012 - 4:38pm

Me waving proudly. And by proudly, I have finally overcome any co-dependency I had in the past in which I didn't allow my self BOUNDARIES, and NOW I do. It is healthy and necessary to have boundaries, especially when dealing with toxic people.
DH's kids will NEVER grace our doorway again. Like I said in the other blog, if he wants a relationship with them, great, BUT I will not and definately not in our home.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Wed, 03/14/2012 - 4:48pm

I've told DH I would NEVER live with his kid again. That if circumstances changed and he had to have custody of her, that I would move out until she graduated from HS and moved on. No summers at our place after HS either.

I tolerate her at best and I hope she succeeds in life but I will NOT live with her again. Too much drama.

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Submitted by liks on Wed, 03/14/2012 - 4:52pm

Hello....I have said the same....my DH 2 horrible kids are NEVER allowed anywhere around me again!!! The crap they have said about me is just too much to handle...they are a bad influence on my kids and even my DH wont allow them to seek the benefits of what our family is doing...

So...its great!!! the two little turds are an absolute disgrace - shame that they are like this...but they are liers, manipulators, care for NO ONE but themselves, and take orders off their mother who is an absolute lunitic....

I feel fantastic they are out of our lives....MIL isnt too happy....but they dont go see her anymore either.....who cares....I dont....cant live the way I was expected to....its been about a year now since I blew up

Biggrin Biggrin Biggrin Biggrin

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Submitted by novemberm on Wed, 03/14/2012 - 5:19pm

My FDH's "kids" are not allowed in our home. They cannot be trusted. They do not want anything to do with him now that he is no longer their bank, but still, they will never be allowed in here. They are not even coming to our wedding, bc they would ruin it or BM would tag along.

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Submitted by bi on Wed, 03/14/2012 - 5:47pm

sd19 is allowed to come over, and while i have never said this to fdh, i would definitely leave if he ever let her move back in. the year she was here was absolutely wretched. she caused nothing but problems for all of us. bs was only 8 months old when her ass came here, and i feel like she ripped all of us off of what should have been an awesome time in our lives. her lies, manipulations, drama and bullshit about killed me. or more accurately, about caused me to kill her! no way will i ever let that happen again! can go to her mom. especially if things with her bf fall apart after her baby is born. i don't want her here, and i sure as hell don't care to raise her kid when i've lost 3 of my own, one of which was much to her delight.

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Wed, 03/14/2012 - 6:21pm

Can you come to my house and tell DH that SD15 isn't allowed in our house? Please Smile My life would be so peaceful without her!!!

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Submitted by imthewife on Wed, 03/14/2012 - 7:49pm

We are in the middle of this same transition with my SD19. She cause a ton of problems for me when she came to live full time during HS when her mom left the state.

She is away at school and I made her go to her mom's for spring break. Basically...she is going to be going back there for all of the summer, too.

When she is home...it is all about her sleeping in and not doing a damn thing. I finally told my DH that in fact, he and I NEVER talked about her future college and just how long we were going to support her.

Now with the bitchy SILs telling my SD she has all these rights and she is worse at 19 then she ever was.

I won't let her back here...her room has been turned into my 3 yr old son's room...a room that should have been his at birth...but God forbid we move her out of it and into the girls bedroom with our other daughter...no one would hear of it.

I am with you on this one...I am doing what is best for my family now. She has a mom...go see her!

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Submitted by bi on Wed, 03/14/2012 - 9:41pm

wow, you are like an alternate version of me, you sound like me with your thoughts and your situation sounds damn similar to mine, too!

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Submitted by momof5_1969 on Thu, 03/15/2012 - 1:56am

my SD22 is out of our house and i told my DH if he ever let her move back in it was over between us -- that i was moving out. i meant it. She is absolutely not even allowed to come into the home to visit my DH or her siblings either due to her treatment of me. i finally put my foot down in oct 2011 after years of 5 years of mistreatment by her. i was done and not going to go through it anymore. she has been told if she shows up here I will call the police. And i will not hesitate to call the police if she shows up. i've told my DH that and his kids know that also. i've simply had enough of her crap. no more!!