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SD's proud moment this weekend...and my own moment of being proud of her (sarcasm warning)

mama_althea's picture

By the time I got home Saturday, SD7 was already at the house. She came running up to show off her...wait for it...shiny silver tooth! Yay! One of her rotten teeth had to be replaced with an entire silver tooth and she's proud of her new tooth! It matches her new pierced ears! Hurray! She had some other work done, but nothing as cool as her silver tooth.

I do appreciate that she felt like running up to me to tell me something, I guess, so there's something good. And I guess it's good that she can make a silver lining (get it?) out of the black cloud of her dental hygiene.

My proud moment was of her Oscar-worthy acting that night...I'm coming through the bedroom hallway after having just crashed up and down the basement stairs with some heavy stuff and just after SO loudly moved a big heavy TV in the next room. SD gives me the routine "Where's my Dad?", (I'm sure plenty here know the sound of Where's my Dad?)to which I reply in the bedroom. Once she finds him, she screws up her face and raises her voice a couple octaves into a beautifully executed whine and says "Daddy I'm scared...I hear thunder" and then throws in a little hyperventilation for good measure. He assures her it was just us making noise moving stuff around and gets back to the project we were working on. I glance over to see her deflate a little without attention from Dad, get her normal look back on, and go back to her room.

I know this was just a minor example, but it's so frustrating because I'm pretty much the only one who sees these things. SS15 sees her do these things, so he knows, but his parents think it's just sibling rivalry if he says anything, so he gave up. She has impeccable timing, mad acting skills, and lies roll so easily off her tongue that her parents fall for all of her shit. I'd rather deal with an outright misbehaving kid. If a kid outright misbehaves, you can call them out on it and assign the appropriate consequence. Dealing with her backhanded ways and tippy-toeing over making sure she's not upset is driving me insane.

Sigh. Rant off.

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misskiya's picture

I wish I could help you with the frustration. I can't. I haven't figured it out yet either. but let me just say ...."YAY! I'm not the only one!" Day in and day out, we will be the only ones that see through the bull, and we're the ones that can't change it. At least he didn't give in to her though, so that's a plus.

mama_althea's picture

You're right. There was a time he probably would have oh-poor-babied her and maybe even put a bandaid on her somewhere (she's a band-aid-aholic and they are needed for any and all situations). Good thing he was preoccupied with the project.

Jmom's picture

Here's the funny thing: "I have caught my SS9 lying on multiple occasions to try to get me or my DDs in trouble over stuff or my SD8 falling into her "woe is me" moment... but DH just plays it off and doesnt listen"

SD12 doesn't do this with her dad she does it with ME. She knows that trying this with him is getting her no where so she follows me around with this crap. I just ignore her. I'll be glad when she finally get's the hint. I can't stand her trying to hug and cuddle with me and talk all surpery with me. I'm not her BM and these are things she needs to do with her. BS12 just shakes his head.