its.so.not.woth.it
Its so not worth my BP going sky high because of your 4 year old brat...
Hi there..so this is my first time on these kinda sites and forums. I only googled this today cause "its" getting to the point were i cant stand looking at "her"..
Let me first start by saying that i have 4 of my own kids, my oldest is 7 and my youngest is 2 moths. I have been married for 2 years. My life is pretty much great, until you add my husbands 4 year old daughter. Now let me say that i have been in this little girls life from day one. My kids call her sister and love her and miss her when she is gone.
I have so much on my mind and so much to say i dont know where to start. In the last few weeks this little girl seems like she has gotten worse. I dont know if its her peeing in the bed every day or just the fact that she is a 2 faced little brat. About the peeing, my husband says that i just have to get used to it and expect that its going to happen. Now mind you that i also have a 4 year old son and he does not pee in the bed. OKAY OKAY he might every 3-4 months only cause he drinks too much too late at night, but thats not the point. Well when see does pee in the bed and i ack her she sits there and tells me she didn't and lies to my face, blames it on my son and then she don't even take off her peed pj's. So my day starts off like that, EVERY DAY!!!!!!!
Now getting more into things, she uses nasty language around my kids. I tell her dad but "You just have to tell her it's bad to use those words" thats what he says. She don't ever listen to me unless her dad is in the house. This past week i and all 5 kids went to my girl-friends house and spent the weekend with her and her husband. She was pushing all the kids running around like she just took a hit of some crack is loud as hell and her voice is the right pitch that gets on my last nerve. The one thing that gets my to the point of i have to leave the room is when she just stares at me. I mean literally sits across the room and just stares at me. I try and ask her what she is doing but i get no response from her. It makes my blood boil when she does that. UGH!!!! Just thinking about it makes my BP go up.
Okay so about the her being 2 faced..
When her dad is around she acts like this sweet little girl and she dont do anything wrong. She puts on this sweet little voice and is up her dads butt the minute he comes walking in the door. Im to the point were i just rather her go to her moms house and we pay for her daycare. OH and don't get me started on her mom. We have her 5 days out of the week, we drop her off at her moms on sunday after church (around 2) and then her dad gets her on Monday on his way back home from work. So really she only has her for a little over 24 hours. And when we get her back she is 10 times worse then when we dropped her off. And it takes me the whole 5 days to get her to act some what okay to live with then its back to her mom. And thats a pain in my ass. My husband her dad says that i just have to work with her, ohh and have patiences. But i am to my last straw with her. Im to the point that i dont like her at all> Ia i wrong to be feeling like that???
All my friends dont like watching her when i ask them to watch my kids. They ask me if they have to watch Alivia or is she going to her moms????
I dont know what else to say, im just done with her and the way she acts and how her dad is so blinded to how she acts. I feel like leaving mu husband is the only way to get away from this BRAT child.....
Or i should take up drinking again.....LOL LOL jk
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First thank you, and second
First thank you, and second is yes she is home with me all day every day. Her birthday fell after the deadline. But life would be so much better when i can get her out of my hair.
As far as your next question, trust me i don't let her get away with anything. She gets the same treatment as my other 4 kids. She probably gets the most whooping's out of all of them. I run a strict house my mom was army and so was my brother and my husband is NAVY. Our house is ran like the NAVY/ARMY. My kids know this and for some reason this lil girl thinks other wise..
I feel like i'm at a dead end with her. Its to the point were i don't wan't her around my kids at all. I can't stand her being in my house.
I dont like her playing with my kids things cause she breaks everything, she would have her own but they are all broken. all my 7 year olds dolls all have missing heads, legs, arm or even hair. All my 4 year old boys cars are broken. She has broken my 18 month olds guitar and drum set..
Is it wrong for me to really feel hatred for this child. I don't know what has changed in the last 2 years cause i used to love having her and playing with her. But know i would rather have my body be eaten my killer ants while still alive then deal with her...
Not trying to be a brat
Not trying to be a brat here.. but if you guys have this gal 6 days per week, and dad has had her since day 1, then the assumption would be that she has learned her shitty behavior in your home. You can't possibly think that BM is responsible for for her bad manners when she only has her about 1 day per week? Am I misunderstanding something here?
well thanks for your input
well thanks for your input but... no my kids are well behaved kids. No cussing and no back talking with any of them.
Let me state this, i forgot to also say that my husband just came back in May of 2011 for Afghanistan. He was gone for a year and thats when this lil brat started all the shit she does. She was whit her mom and her aunt's. Brat sounds just like her mom and aunts and talks just like them. When she is with her mom for that one day she is allowed to do what ever she wants there is no discipline over there. BM calls my husband 3-4 times in that one day cause she cant control her child either.
my kids have manors, yes and no ma'am/sir, please and thank you. I have rules and my kids abide by them.
So no its not coming from my home at all, but thank you for your input!!
OMG okay so its just not me,
OMG okay so its just not me, why is it that when i try to correct the staring problem. It's ME having a grudge and im picking on her. Ohh and her peeing, i stop her drinks at 9 and i make her go to the bathroom before going to bed. And i have had her walk around with nasty pj's on, she don't care. She walks around like she is getting a privilege because the other kids have to get in the tub and have to get dressed.
I tell her dad when he gets home and as soon as he starts talking she pushes out some tears and starts crying. Then he gives in and starts talking all soft and with no balls. And the funny thing is i have a 4 year old boy and when he starts crying the says thats annoying and to go to his room or he he starts to yell at him. Yes i can say tha my son is a sweet little boy and he gets emotional, but he was raised by me and maybe thats my fault. But i tell him that he needs to stop playing favorites. But his come back is that he's a boy and needs to man up. Which i find to be all bull shit.
BM has no rules at her place, thats were i get pissed. But i can't control her house and what she does over there. Runs around all day eating candy and do whatever the she wants to do. I would rather have her all the time, that way i can keep her in line. Or just not have her at all. I feel bad when i say that but she is too much of a fast lil girl for my taste.
When i the car coming home from getting her from BM, she can sing every word to every song on the radio but cant sing her ABC"S or count to 10. Now i do work with her everyday. But by the time she gets a good grip on it she forgets it all when she leaves. I dont know why in one day she forgets how to count and how her ABC"S go. It's like she has to have it shoved in her ear everyday or she forgets it ALL...
well thank you so much for you help, and i guess when i stop nursing my son ill start back to drinking..
she has never done that
she has never done that before but it wont surprise me if she starts. Why do they do that, thats what i want to know. I was always taught that is not polite to stare. And i have taught my kids not to do it.
see that to much for me to be
see that to much for me to be doing all that work, we have a big old suburban and she sits all the way in the back. Have you ever got that feeling that your being watched, and you can feel them during holes in your head. Thats whats its like while we are in the car. Funny thing is when i say something about it my husband had the nerve to say that "well maybe she is just looking at how pretty you are"
Get out of here with that bruh!!! I shouldn't have to change me because SD has a problem..
Thats how i feel.....
why do they feel the need to
why do they feel the need to compare the SD form hell to our own kids?!?! I tell him that my kids and her are nothing alike. The only thing is that my BS and SD are both the same age, THATS ALL!!! Now if i go the kitchen and come back with something in my hands, she will sate at me, i will ask her What, what do you want???? ill kepp doing this till she fianlly looks off or her daddy says she wants what you got, can you get her one?? Really how you know that, she didn't even say a word. So until she can talk to me then im not getting her a bitch ass thing..But then im being mean to her if i don't go get it. Or ill make him go get it and then he huff's and buff's. "you could of just got her one also while you were up" No thank you then i would have to get 3 more for my kids. And im not going to have my kids eating junk before dinner or before going to bed..
The being daddies lil mini
The being daddies lil mini girlfriend...omg lol. She is up his butt when he gets home, i cant even sit next to him without her staring and making a GOD awful dumb ass face, like she is bout to cry. Everywhere he goes she is 2 steps behind him. But when my BS wants to sit next to me he is being a titty baby. And he needs to get away from me. BULL FUCKING SHIT!!! But don't let me say anything bout her. I just don't understand, riiight.
Well at least now i know that im not the only one with this problem, cause i was starting to feel shitty about myself. But on the other hand she makes me act and feel like this.
hope we got a life vest around somewhere....lol
Okay so at frist it didnt get
Okay so at frist it didnt get to me, but wetting the bed every night...COME ON!!!! She cant start pre-school till this 2012-2013 school year. My BS is the same age and he doesn't pee in the bed. Yes i know every child is different and you have to treat them different. I have been nice about it and i have let her slide with doing it and then i have done the punishment thing, nothing is working.. SO i think i have the right to get mad if she is doing it every night no matter is i stop her drinking at 7 she will still pee in the bed.
And if she was soo embarrassed about it then why when her dad ask her the same question she can tell him right away what she did..
I just don't get whats going on any more.
But thank you for you comment BigFatMeanie
yeah i got it and i accepted
yeah i got it and i accepted it. I dont know how to write just to you or if thats possible.