Manipulation Bedtime tactics and what I should say to DH.....
Long story short-Ss9 has been throwing fits about going to bed at our house for 6 MONTHS!!! Granted he's only here every other weekend....however he winds up keeping ME and my BS10(whose room he sleeps in while he's here) up for a good 2-3 hours every night he's here....then he wakes up at 6am every morning like he's done no wrong! And really-why not? Because there are no consequences for his behavior...after I brought it to DH attention that I have enough trouble sleeping at night between the two babies under 2 that still don't sleep through the night....and the fact that I'm just a light sleeper unlike my husband...so he told him if it continues that he would sleep in the living room by himself...of course there was no follow through with that....so I let my son stay the night other places while he's here since my husband refuses to put a stop to it...however IM STILL HERE!!! I could understand it maybe having been an actual issue at first-but its been 6 months so I'm calling for real BS!!!! So my question is this.....What the HELL do I say to DH that will make him put an end to his sons BS manipulative behavior???? HELP ME BEFORE I SMACK THE LIL TWIT AND TELL HIM TO KNOCK IT THE F*** OFF!!!!
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Point out what a shame his
Point out what a shame his son cannot settle himself to sleep at night. How it really is a milestone for kids to reach and how sad he will never be able to go to scout camps or sleep overs with friends because he is so nocturnaly challenged. And if he continues to allow his son to scream and make a fuss like a toddler in a tiara then he will have to take is son and spend the night in hotel rooms because this behaviour is really quite disturbing in such an older child and surely there must be some medical reason he cannot settle down and go to sleep like a normal child.
I'd plan activities at home,
I'd plan activities at home, or go shopping purposly and let him be there but leave him out of them. If he bitches and moans just ask him if he went to bed without any problems the night before...he'll say 'no' and then tell him that he needs to get more sleep and things will get better he'll get the message. Once he gets the message he'll realize that going to bed is not so bad after all...LOL
I hear you with the
''HELP ME BEFORE I SMACK THE LIL TWIT AND TELL HIM TO KNOCK IT THE F*** OFF!!!!''
thing because I have often thought the very same thing! No one here seems to like my brand of honesty...LOL
"So he told him if it
"So he told him if it continues that he would sleep in the living room by himself."
SO where is DH sleeping?? Follow Through.... I'll miss ya sweetie, here's your blanket & pillow.
I'd just smack the little
I'd just smack the little twit and tell him to knock it the fuck off.
You are right that is good
You are right that is good parenting, my sd6 gets nothing unless she is well behaved and respectful, children enjoy working for rewards, they like to see that their efforts are appreciated as well.
Melatonin... My bs 9 gets
Melatonin... My bs 9 gets 2mgs every night by 815 & he's asleep by 9pm without fuss every night.
Sit the child down as he is
Sit the child down as he is old enough to understand the following:
Your bed time is at 9pm. There is no negotiation on this. You have one warning to get your behind into bed without a fuss then we start counting.
When we say 1) you have lost all video games for the next day.
If we have to make it to 2) you will spend the next day, sitting in a dining room chair, reading a book. That is all you are allowed to do for the entire day. As you finish a book, you are required to write a 4 sentence book report on it, then move on to the next book.
If you make your father or I say 3) you will go to bed with a sore butt and still be reading the next day.
Clear?
It was very effective on me as a child. Only number one was I was not allowed to go outside to play. My parents only made it to three once. I might have been stubborn, but I was not stupid enough to risk my butt again.