SD19 is totally delusional, maybe DH is too?
I was getting ready to go to church the morning of Mother's Day and DH comes in while I'm dressing and brings up, AGAIN, the time he bought me a mother's necklace after oldest BD was born. He bought a necklace with a little girl charm with BD8's birthstone. It was very sweet. He added to it when second BD was born.
Well, when he gave it to me SD was 10 and we'd been married for two years, together for five. SD19 liked me right up till DH told her we were getting married, then she turned into a raving crazy person and has been that way ever since. BUT, she was mad at DH for not including a charm of her in my mother's necklace. Are you kidding me?!
Anyway, DH brings it up and mentions SD19's reaction. I just made a sour face (my standard reaction when he wants to start "reminiscing" about SD19). Then he says, "But that was before SD started being mean to you." Um, hell no it wasn't! That was right in the thick of things, when she was putting liquid soap on my toothbrush and hanging "I HATE YOU. YOU SUCK" signs on her bedroom door. The hate campaign started when she was 8 and hasn't ended yet, so why the HELL would I EVER put HER on MY mother's necklace?
Makes me realize just how delusional SD19 is.
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Thanks for beinging this up.
Thanks for beinging this up. This topic bugs me, too.
I just recently added to my mother's necklace and now have both of my biokids on it. The problem is...the MINUTE i wear it, someone is going to ask "where is SD19"?????
My standard response is....ON HER BM's NECKLACE...
Why would your DH even think that it would be ok in the first place to add her to YOUR necklace. Two problems here:
1. You are NOT her mom...these are precious sentiments to the children we give birth to. Why would you want her on your necklace...why would DH want her there?
2. No matter how evil a BM may be...it is still THEIR child. I would NEVER allow some other woman to wear a necklace with my kids on it. BM was good enough to procreate with at one time...they will have to still own up to it...forever...
Believe me...our BM is a piece of work to this day..so much that SD19 can barely stand her. However...DHs are all too quick to bump her out of the picture and force all the sentiment and responsibility on us.
For this reason, I still have not taken my two kids for a picture...God forbid it doesn;t have SD19 in it.
The bracelet that SO was
The bracelet that SO was going to give me as an engagement gift had charms representing my kids, and one representing his daughter.
I can't imagine ever wearing it. It would seem like a lie. She has made it clear she does not want a relationship with me, and she is not part of my family, and never will be.