I'm going to flip the ***k out!
I know I'm jealous.
I know I'm angry. How can she (BM=Darth Vader) always be so freaking happy? Are their lives just freaking perfect over there?
They have so much money and are always on the go when SS9 is over there. Always doing something fun and exciting.
We are barely scraping by, filing bankruptcy in DH's name and spend most of our time at home or one of our parents' houses.
So SS9 has a cell phone. He is "required" (as says Darth Vader) to use it to keep in touch with the other parent. Does he call or text us? Nope. He says he's "too busy". But yup, because he's bored to tears right now (first thing he wants to know when he gets to our house is " what are we doing today?" and because he's on restriction for the next 2 weeks from playing any video games...which we reserve for weekends mostly), he has plenty of time to text back and forth with dear old mom. And she sends the stupidest stuff like "I love you more than donkey butt".
Why am I so angry over this?
I'm jealous. I hate her. I'm jealous. I hate her. I hate that she seems so FREAKING happy and all hunky dory. Meanwhile, DH and I are desperately holding on to each other and trying so hard to make things decent between us so it's good for SS9 and daughter2.
I just want her life to be miserable. I tried to get into it with her a few weeks ago, called her out on some stuff, and she goes and tattles to DH that "oh I don't have a problem with "this situation" and "that situation" that your wife brought up. I don't want to cause problems between you two, but maybe y'all need to talk. SS9 says that she's mean to him when you're not around. BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH.
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Honey, I have been there and
Honey, I have been there and I had to let go of the jealousy and envy in order to be happy. Bm² always tried to rub her happiness in my face and realized the reason in her doing so was because she knew it was eating me up inside. Things aren't always what they seem because the truth is out that her and her boyfriend are having problems and there is no love between them. I learned to concentrate on my marriage and my kids with DH and pretty much ignore BM².
BM pulled that crap of, I
BM pulled that crap of, I don't want to tell you what to do in your house but I am going to anyway bull crap....
I told DH, easy solution, you be here always when the skids are here, you need to take a shit, take them with you, you need to pop out to the store, take them with you. I will not be put in the position for them to be alone in the same room with me if you are going to side with BM on everything that is fabricated ...
BM gets her kids for free, doesn't have to pay for anything, got a free house fully furnished, a car paid for and has 50% of her time to do whatever she wants. BM has it pretty damn good, and yes, anything good that happens to us, BM doesn't like it so much.
What BM doesn't have is happiness or DH. Neither of which she will ever have again... so there BM, so there...
Oh man, I started out this
Oh man, I started out this way too. We were living in a 1br and BM just had LOADS of money and was always doing something fun and buying loads of crap for SD.
We finally got on track and got a house and then FDH lost his job. Thankfully BM agreed to a reduction and now that FDH is working again and things are looking up for us, BM isnt so happy anymore. The douche she cheated with isnt making her happy anymore and shes living with him and SD at his house. Shell never be anybody.
When SD is older Ill be ready to flat out tell her that we dont have cable because we pay BM every month, but right now at 4 its hard to communicate why her house just might be better than ours.
Hang in there, its hard when theres some1 to compare your life too, especially when there's seems so grand. Karma will get them, so no need to worry about that part.
And the part about ur SS claiming some bullsh*t, Id have DH call him out on that real fast. SD4 tries to say that 'daddy said' this or that, I dont let that stuff fly I call it out as soon as it happens.
^THIS^^ Oh, heavens, this. I
^THIS^^
Oh, heavens, this.
I was the younger, prettier, new wife. We went on to have 3 kids together. I was a SAHM while DH worked and made 6 figures. We had a comfortable life.
Gifts were always jewelry, often from Tiffany & Co.
We had new, nice care.
Our kids attended private school.
We had annual passes to a half dozen local themeparks.
I'd imagine there were people who were jealous... probably BM, for one!
But there was a deep, dark secret. DH (now XH) was abusive. Angry. Belittled us and cut each of us down daily. Screamed. Cursed. Threw things. Threw me up against walls. Destroyed breakables in our home. Would threaten our children (unbeknownst to me) that he would hurt them if they ever told.
Tried to kill me.
That was the night the marriage finally ended.
It was ugly. Totally ugly and awful, and we all still bear scars years later.
I found out the XH was over $100K in debt and it was now HALF MINE because we were married. I had no idea this existed.
People were SHOCKED when the truth was finally revealed. They said they thought we had the perfect family life.
All that said, MAYBE BM is deliriously happy and life is perfect for her. But YOU have the man you love, and really, that should be enough for you. Money cannot buy happiness. I would MUCH rather live in a studio apt and take the bus and be married to the man of my dreams than to have all the money in the world and be married to an asshole.
^^^ I agree 100%
^^^ I agree 100%
hang on.. her day will
hang on.. her day will come....the BM in our situation was cheated on and left hangin by the very man she cheated with and caused the divorce btween her and DH..so we got a good laugh from it!!! but i understand what ur goin thru.. we were always told by ss and sd where all they traveled and all the things bm buys them but i knew it was only cause she got so much childsupport from dh and lived off govmnt help...pathetic!!! if your honest in life it will come back around:) i hope she has a plan cause cs is about to run out..im countin the days......