You are not alone and I had a math professor at university that I became friends with and she told me once that her family told her she was too white because she worked at a university and did not speak "ghetto". Then she dressed too white because she dressed professional. They complained she was making her son white. Her family was jealous because she got out of public housing and wanted better for herself and her son.

People will say anything including racist things to hurt people.

:jawdrop: I don't even know what to say here. Racism is racism is racism, regardless of what color your skin happens to be. Yes, racism against white people is still racism. What do the bio parents have to say about this? That's an unbelievable situation, and one that needs to end quickly.

When you find the answer, please let me know.

I'm black. DF is black, his kids are black. BMs are black.

The crazy BM has started a Disney thinks she's white and is trying to make my kids act white war. It won't be long before her kids start singing the same tune.

Your skids are racist, and it sounds like they get it from BM. How old are they? It might not be too late to teach them tolerance.

BM² thinks SS is better than my kids because he is a lot lighter than my kids but my kids aren't even dark. She is way darker than me so with her logic I'm better than her? She won't let SS go out in the son fearing he will get darker. MIL said he's the same color he was from birth!

OMG the whole light skin vs dark skin/ good hair vs. bad hair drives me crazy.

We took the girls to the Big Apple Circus. BM bitched about it because we didn't take them to the "right" one. I love UniverSoul Circus but we know BM takes them to that one every year. I try to expose them to things they won't get to do with their mom.

HAHAHA! I'm Hispanic and my kids, SKIDS and DH say "I think I'm white." It is the funniest thing ever. I don't take offense. If behaving like an educated adult, being involved in my childs education, volunteering at school, enjoying living the American Dream and constantly reading books constitutes me being White, well WHATEVER!!! I'd rather they call me that than GHETTO HOODRAT & ILLITERATE.

I have 4 nieces/nephews who are bi-racial and I as others have said must say that they only racism these kids have encountered (that they were aware of) to date was from the black side of their family.
The first warning should have been when thier father didn't want to get married to my sister because his mother wouldn't approve of him marrying a "white girl". His family frequently speak poorly of white people...and compare and contrast the children's skin color, hair texture, etc. For quite some time this really destroyed atleast one of the childrens self-esteem.
I would make a case of this with DH. These BM so often forget how tied to thier parents their own self-esteem is. These children are already in a world that wants to link who they are/will be to thier race...add some racial confusion and racisim to the blend and you have a very damaged child.

I live in Puerto Rico, I am from Puerto Rico and growing up I did not have many issues with the friends that we had. However, in the public schools it was a different story. It was a nightmare. My entire family, as many here, are blonde/blue eyes, etc...I STILL get pissed off because although MANY claim racism, they are more racist than I could ever dream of being. Heck, I am not racist at ALL. I have dated guys from all different cultures, skin color, etc...but I am CONSTANTLY being told "oh because you are white...your kiddo is so white..." blah, blah, blah...it pisses me off. Needless to say, God forbid I tell them "wow, your kid is so dark"...they would freak and call ME a racist. I have learned that it is those who hate THEMSELVES the most and WANT to be "whiter" that are like this. Period. I see it time and time again. I even changed my hair color in the hopes that people stopped labeling me as "white" and making nasty comments. I never had ANY issues with my old neighbors, most of which looked like me...NEVER. Since I moved, it has been a nightmare. Again, it is really about their OWN issues, not about you. Don't bother with them. That's on them and not on you. Just this week I said "f#$%#$%ck them all...and dyed my hair back to my original blonde..." They don't like it, too bad.