Am I wrong??
Yesterday as a treat FDH took the kids and I out to eat. We are in the process of closing on a house and are having to save every penny and both kids know this so this was a big deal. SS9 thinks he should get something everywhere we go and doesn't care about price consequently we are telling him no we are not spending extra money because we are saving for the new house almost daily.
We went to a Mexican restaurant that is FDH's favorite. We were seated by a gentleman that was bussing the tables that day. No big deal but as the guy walks away SS9 points at him and snaps while saying I want tea to drink. The guy looked a little shocked and FDH tells SS the guy doesn't take drink orders. The guy trying not to piss off the customers says its ok. I end up having to order because he doesn't speak English well enough to take the order. He actually got our waitress because SS wouldn't shut up and was confusing him. Then SS snaps and tells the guy cheese dip after the guy got a couple tables away. My jaw fell off and was now permanently on the floor. FDH addressed SS's behavior by saying that FDH made the money and not SS and FDH would order. But FDH not only excuses SS by saying that FDH's parents must let SS order like that and that was why he did it and then ordered the cheese dip.
I wouldn't have ordered the cheese dip and when it did arrive FDH said it was for everyone and SS still pulled it towards him and tried to block DD3 from it.
Was I wrong for being mad at SS for acting this way and thinking he should not get to order extras like this? I know I was still pissed off from SS throwing his foot in DD's face as she tried to climb up on the couch to sit in her spot.
Also SS's newest habit is if you ask if he did something that he is not supposed to do he says he does not remember doing it or being told not to. So he can't be punished and then he is not really lying in his mind.
Does anyone have any ideas on what I can do besides disengaging?
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Your DH actually let his kid
Your DH actually let his kid snap his fingers at a food service person?!! My kids would not dare!! Hell...no one I know is that screwed up to do that.
LOL...I bet he or all of you ate some snot or spit that night and did not even know it. YUK!
How old is your SS? Make him
How old is your SS? Make him volunteer at a soup kitchen or something similar for a day. Or talk to the manager of the resteraunt and see if he can shadow a waiter for a few hours and see how it feels. What a little shit (sorry). Who snaps at a waiter, thats just ridiculous.
Lady, he is a little shit! He
Lady, he is a little shit! He has never acted this way in front of DH or myself before. We both sat and stared at him with deer in the headlights looks. DH at least apologized to the servers and scolded SS while they were there. But I feel like he let it go too easily. DH always uses his parents as the reason for SS acting entitled and being a shit then follows up with a we will get him into counseling and fix this. UGH!
The last time SS12 and SS14
The last time SS12 and SS14 acted like fools in a restaurant, I asked the server for the check. Jaws hit the floor when I told the server to cancel SS12/SS14's orders and asked for the other meals to go. I'm to the point where I refuse to put up with any bullshit for kids.
You hit the nail on the head.
You hit the nail on the head. I learned early on, you never "ask" what they were doing. You TELL THEM what you observed/heard/gut-felt. Then you TELL THEM what the consequences are.
Just like if you hear a kid use a swear word, you certainly don't say, "What did you say??!!??" Nope. You just call it like it is and TELL THEM what you heard, and what their punishment will be.
Was I wrong for being mad at
Was I wrong for being mad at SS for acting this way
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Yes you were wrong....you should have been mad at DH for allowing that kind of crap.
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Thanks!!! DH likes to blame
Thanks!!! DH likes to blame his parents for the crazy stuff SS9 does and then says as soon as we move he is going for counseling. I think the time for dealing with this is NOW! Not next month. We are moving an hour and a half drive away so I know why he wants to wait but this is inexcusable.
DH did tell SS9 that he cannot do that but I agree with my mom who said she would have left the restaurant. I know this kid did not learn this behavior from DH.
The thing about asking SS if he did something wrong was a situation where DD climbed on a cooler and DH got on to her for it and I pointed out she does it because SS does it. I then told DH I told SS to get off the cooler and he informed me it was also a seat and sat on it. I told him to get off and stay off but of course he ignored me. So DH said "SS weren't you told to stay off the cooler?" SS of course says he doesn't remember and DH said you were told and know you were told. Stay off the cooler.
This kid loves to push my buttons. I think he is sneakier and nastier than DH realizes and that I didn't realize it either. I used to feel sorry for him but now I find him annoying. I have no experience with a 9 year old though.
Luckily DH is on days the next two weeks so he is now daddy's problem.