If your FDH was on board with the grounding, then he's being a bit of an ass - to say the least - by letting SS slide on the grounding. The last one just sounds like FDH wanted to watch a movie and didn't want to wait until SS was in bed, personally. And what doesn't your FDH understand?? Sounds like you need to sit your FDH down and explain to him in basic, simple language that no TV, videogames, or movies means none whatsoever. It doesn't mean no TV, videogames, or movies that SS wants to or asks to watch/play. It means zilch, zip, nada.

If FDH is going to be on board with consequences that are doled out to SS, then, he really needs to stick to them, back you up, and not undermine you because SS can learn very quickly that dad is more lax and that he doesn't really need to take you seriously. And that isn't a situation you should be in if you're helping parent your SS.

some men say they will do it but will back down when time comes to shove cause its easier to let it happen then deal with the tantrums or even deal with the child itself. How i know? my SD has ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) and he has done this plenty of times and it was like talking to the wall. Til she decided one day cause he didnt let her get her own way, she called CPS and said he was beating her up, it was proven it was a lie and it was a way to show him"how she felt" when she got grounded.. but he never did it. Believe me when i say this, get a hold of the behavior NOW then later cause it will come and bite you and your DH in the ass. If i had my time back, i would have ran. HELL i'd be running now if i didnt have my son and i dont want to split my son and dh apart, they have such a good bond.

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Lame , I hear you totally on this one.. Ss5 doesn't listen worth a shit! Does the same crap over and over and telling him no just goes in one ear and out the other.. So frustrating and I too have had the same prob of my fdh bein lax when it comes to punishment and keeping it enforced. The only advice I can give you is what I tried, talk to fdh and tell him how you feel and that if u let him get away with this behavior now he will only get worse and learn you are the mean one and your fdh is the lax one.. You don't want that lol so talk to your man and tell him straight either you guys produce a united front to the children and show them who is boss and keep to your words of grounding or you might not be able to do this for much longer because you are being undermined like what u say doesn't matter.. If he chooses to still be lax then tell him that you are not goin to parent on certain things that he chooses either you paret all the time or nothing at all.. He can't pick and choose what you parent on and what u don't . That being said then the kid is 100% his problem.. Your no longer going to cook for skids or cloth them or drop them off at school or babysit them nothing!! Allllll his problem now! I used that on my fdh and it worked like a charm! Good luck !!