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OT - more than 2 legal parents? watch out SMs and SDs out there...

herewegoagain's picture

I just read this and thought...OMFG??? Soon, the courts will see SMs and SDs as an additional parent and well, we know the ONLY reason will end up being more money through CS...good luck to all.

http://gma.yahoo.com/three-daddies-california-eyes-multiple-parenting-la...

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stepmisery's picture

I saw that article too. That's nuts. The article says all three parties (why stop at three, what if both parents have remarried?) have to work out visitation, custody and support. Can you imagine how complicated that would be?

The case that originated this should be treated like any other case of parents who are unable to care for their children and the state has to step in. Why not change the law to allow the bio-father to petition to care for the child?

Politicians and lawyers who grandstand in order to make a name for themselves or social engineer...

kitty1470's picture

Hell no Im not going to parent or care for his kids! I would not consent to this.. and if we break up, I don't want anything to do with the skids.. Just cause Im living with a guy with kids doesn't mean I want to care for them. And thats why I keep my finances separate and I refuse to get married.

stepmisery's picture

The third party in the original case was not married to either of the women, but I'm sure it's a little different because he is the biofather and has some kind of ongoing relationship with the child.

That makes me wonder, would it evolve into people being FORCED to be a legal parent?

boogeymom's picture

I will get a divorce before any court decides a) I'm a co-parent (I don't even want kids of my own, why would I want to take responsibility for those f-ed up brat skids of mine?), and b) I have to actually pay child-support for them. Over my dead body will BM ever touch a cent of my money.

bi's picture

agreed. i'm not married and sd is 19, so it's a non issue, but if she were a minor and we were married, we would be getting a swift divorce. no way in hell would i spend a dime of my money on cs for her. not only did cs NEVER get spent on her, but i spent enough of my money on her as it was!

boogeymom's picture

I understand that it's a good thing to have a few adults as backup if it's a choice between that and letting kids go to foster care, but that it should be an actual law is questionable to me. Plus, do you know what kind of fight it would cause in my house when H tells me I'm responsible for them if anything happens to him and BM, and I refuse? Shit show.

Disneyfan's picture

If this becomes the law of the land, I'm signing my rights away. LOL

If bio parents can walk away from their kids, I should be able walk away from kids that aren't mine.

Mom2TwinsnTeens's picture

This would work for my situation. Granted I have a rare DH who supports me as the mother figure of the house, and skids who don't totally suck ass. BM is a POS who would absolutely ruin SD14 if she lived with her again. My DH is battling cancer (in remission right now) and I would like to be able to legally keep SD should the worst happen.

I also hated having DH fill out a "permission slip" so I could talk to the school. Uh, hello. She's living in my home, I fulfill all her needs, etc. And dont get me started on medical stuff. SD hasnt gone to the dr in 2 years because they wont take her without medical records, which I nor DH can freakin get.