So, as I have stated before, BM in my situation, is a crazy drunk who has had numerous encounters with law enforcement and hospitalizations from drinking. SO and BM have not finalized their divorce yet (yes, I am breaking every rule I have in this relationship) and so there is a good chance he will get stuck with whatever medical bills are not covered by insurance. Which means his credit is totally and completely shot. Not that mine is much better (debt to income ratio is a bitch when trying to get things figured out).

Well, Monday, BM ended up in the hospital AGAIN! She is living with her boyfriend (who is substantially older even though she has lied time and time again about his age--the domestic assault case was filed with his birthdate, he's a lot older than she said) and they live in a one bedroom slum apartment owned by her parents. Her dad stopped by to do some work on another apartment and decided to check on her. The weekend before we had sent the kids to visit her parents for the night since they hadn't seen all four of them together in more than a month. SO doesn't exactly like his FIL's but, we both grew up without grandparents so we know how important gp's can be and right now they have done a very good job of protecting the kids, and putting them first, so as a "reward" of sorts we let them have the kids for a slumber party.

BM found out and flipped her lid. She found out because SO told her since she was bugging about her "nightly phone call." She went to the nut hatch two weeks ago and was there for 15 days and SO's attorney said no more phone calls. When she got out of the hospital, she immediately started drinking. The mental ward is in another town 45 miles away. She was drunk by the time she hit our town's city limits. We know this because when she gets drunk she starts calling everyone. Anyhow, she was bugging SO about the phone call and he told her there wouldn't be one that night because the calls were suspended and besides that the kids were with her parents. Holy shit, wrong thing to say. The barrage of emails to both him and her parents read like a Wes Craven screenplay. Lots of carnage and horribly mean and inappropriate comments made.

Fast forward to Monday morning. 10:30 a.m. her dad shows up to check on her. She answers the door and in his words, "was shitrocked." BIL (who I work with) asked me to cover some of his cases because he had to go to her house (his parents have guardianship over her right now as she has been deemed mentally incompetent to manage her own affairs). He comes back an hour and a half later and tells me that the house reeked of alcohol and she was clearly under the influence. Police are called (again---the county attorney tells me they are there daily as her house is right behind their office) and a PBT is taken with the little car machine. These things are inherently unreliable and that's why they aren't admissible in court, but she blows into the thing and it comes up 0.00. WTF???

They think she had a reaction to her meds so they take her to the local mental health provider who decides on EPC's and she is immediately EPC'd until they can figure out what is going on with her meds. She is there for three hours and at 3 p.m. is taken to the hospital where SO works. Blood is drawn and labs are done. Now, remember, this is from 10:30 am to 3 p.m that she is under constant surveillance. Labs come back....drumroll please...Blood Alcohol Content 0.346. More than 4 times the legal limit. After nearly 6 hours of not drinking, which means she was somewhere around a .5 at least when they showed up. Which explains the threats against herself, the children, the SO and her parents. I didn't make it into the equation, yay me.

So she has been in the hospital since Monday and is being transfered to the mental health hospital again today. SO called this morning because during the morning safety meeting it was reported there was an unusually high number of verbal assaults in the hospital yesterday. Seven reported (guess who was responsible for ALL of them).

Hospital shrink says there is likely little chance they will ever be able to diagnose any mental health issues because she won't stop drinking long enough for her brain to clear. Also said it's terrifying that at a .5, they weren't sure if she had been drinking or not, that takes some talent and tolerance people! So now we go another round of her being locked up, drying out, and sending some of the nastiest emails you have ever read. I can't wait for another round of, "your looser (sic) slut whore," comments about me. I don't want her to die necessarily, but at what point do you as a parent (the guardians) or a medical provider (the doctors and nurses forced to put up with her shit) think to yourself, "you know the herd has a funny way of thinning itself out."

Another month of trying to keep the shit from hitting the fan with the kids. Maybe she will eventually fry her brain completely, but for now, we continue to have the delusional drunk of a BM. At least, locked up, she is limited to two hours of computer time a day. I thrive on stress but I detest drama. I need to find a yoga class. Or an awesome martini bar.