So, H pops it on me this afternoon that either SS, or SD, or both are coming this weekend.

I asked him if it could please be SD instead of SS. He replied with, "... it wouldn't really be fair considering I had her the last."

Ug. Whatever.

So H gets home from work, I let some time go by before I brought it up: I want to know where he plans on taking SS for the weekend since I do not want SS in my home anymore.

Naturally H responds with, "I haven't really thought about it..."

Ug. Of course. What more could I possibly expect from the Spineless Wonder?

Anywho, the long and the short of it is: I reiterated to H that I am not, at all, interested in being treated like crap in my own home. So I DO expect him to find somewhere else to go with his kid.

H tells me, "I don't know what you want from me. I'm never going to change, it is what it is."

Ok, on the one hand I can give him that. However, I asked, "So do you expect me to be ok with being disrespected in my own home by my husband and his kid?" There was a long, long pause, so I repeated the question, H said, "No."

So WTF do we do folks?

I just finally asked him if, since he hasn't bothered to even THINK of some way of making the situation better - and has allowed it to perpetuate for years now - that it wasn't fair for anyone that he has both of the skids at the same time. If he isn't willing to step-up to do something about SS's nasty behavior, it is completely unfair to everyone - INCLUDING SD - to bring them here at the same time. Essentially he is just throwing SD (and me) under the bus while SS pulls his narcissistic, emotional blackmail, temper tantrum, nasty-ass bullshit antics in order to monopolize H's time and energy.

WTH should everyone else have to pay for H's refusal to do something about his own kid?

I hope that hit home with him, because it's true. I'm not the only one who suffers - EVERYONE suffers - INCLUDING SD. SS pulls some crazy-ass shit when the two of them are here together. And then they both feed off of one another and it becomes a huge cluster f*ck shit storm of insane behavior. Frankly, I'm beginning to feel that H is abusing SS by refusing to be the father that he should be, and that he in turn is also abusing everyone else by honestly thinking that we should all have to deal with it.

That's some bullshit right there.

SS is a freaking brat and an ego-maniac.

I don't know how I'm going to handle it if H brings SS into this home this weekend. I know he has no where else to go, but I really don't care. Perhaps H should just have day visitation with the kid if he doesn't want to be a parent. Just sayin'....