Ok... So I've been in a relationship with my BF for over 5 years now. We each have a daughter. Mine is 9 and his is 7. I literally can't stand his kid. I am so annoyed by her, that I don't know what to do anymore. She lies constantly, breaks my belongings, and whines and cries over everything. In the beginning, I opened my life to that little girl. Her mom was a drug addict, so she was constantly abandoned, over n over. I was 100% there for my SD, and opened my life, my house, my heart, my family, and then some...to that little girl. My BF's mom ended up taking care of her, cause I couldn't do it, and my BF workd ALOT. After about a year, I just couldn't be responsible for someone elses child, even though I welcomed her with open arms. This SD of mine is much harder to take care of, and I have a special needs daughter, so u could just imagine the difficulty this child had been. 3 years passed, and now my BF has full custody of her. She just moved in full time, and I am dreading it!! She wrote in her little jpurnal that she hates me... Her Grandma hates me, which is where the H8 came from to begin with. I can't trust a single word she says, nor can I believe her. My BF supports me, but onlY to a certain extent. He thinks I'm crazy b/c I blame her for all my broken belongings, which by the way, she has broken my brand new $200 keyboard, my new diamond earrings that my boyfriend got me, my sunglasses, and the list goes on n on. My SD told me that she thinks up evil ways to try n break up me n her daddy, and that she wants her dad all to herself. She is always so negative and causes problems all the time. She has made up lies about my daughter sticking barbies up her butt, which CPS investigated, and she finally came out with the truth afterwrds that it ddnt happen. When she first moved in, she was 3, and she was sticking her fingers in her butt, which I thought was so weird. We had her investigated for sexual abuse, but the results came back negative. Who knows what this little has been through before she has moved in with me?? Her mother used to bring her to "drug houses" and only the Lord knows what happened there.
Bottome line is, I love her and I love my BF, but I am at my witts end with her. I don't wunna be fully responsible for her. It's not my job yet, cuz we're not married. I have already done so much for her, but she doesn't appreciate a dam thing. What should I do? Should I get out of this reelationship? I'm willing to try a bit harder, but I feel this little girl is a lost cause. I can't help her. She see's a counselor, but even that's not enough. Her evil ways r rubbing off on my daughter, and I don't want that, AT ALL!! What do I do??? ANy advice?