Are you freaking kidding me!! Report her. She is a predator and an abuser. I don't care how old she is. She knows it is wrong and is getting pleasure from abusing. DO NOT COVER UP for her. Move your ass out of there and report her ASAP. The fact that she is not watched 100 % around children is very troubling too. You and your DH are not being responsbile adults in this case. omg.....

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I am very new here and in fact this is the first time I have said anything. Your SD sounds like she is very disturbed to say the least.
I'm just curious about who 'they' are when you say she is not allowed counseling?
That sounds like someone is trying to hide something or not give a professional the chance to find anythnig out. This child needs serious help.
I am so sorry you have to be in this situation.
Junior Sex Offenders (JSO's)are almost always victims and are extremely dangerous.
It's good that you are so aware of her behavior and are protecting your nephew from this.

One suggestion might be an annonymous call to the child protection services that might force her to be allowed counseling. IDK. This is a very sticky situation.

It sounds to me like she was molested herself & now acts it out onother children!!!! She needs SERIOUS counseling- like NOW!!! Call her Dr- get her to a psychiatrist!!!!!!!

She needs to NEVER be alone. NEVER!!!! Get her help!!!!!!!! Who's keeping her from a therapist? Sounds like people have things they are hiding!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Holy cow. Why is this girl so unsupervised??

Mental health services are difficult to come by, especially in "special " circumstances. My advice is continue to hound every agency and service in your state and research to find a lawyer that handles cases regarding developmentally disabled people being denied care or services. You are handling a difficult situation on top of an already difficult situation. Be sure to get counseling for yourself also or the frustration may be more than you can stand. I wish you much luck.

"Has SD's IQ ever been tested?

Sometimes, when the IQ is low, the person is relegated to basic, primal instincts, and lacks the "reasoning" ability to handle them..."

For a brief time years and years and years ago I worked at a center that did factory work and only hired mentally disabled from the ages of 18 to 25. I did a couple of shifts near the holidays to help a friend of mine supervise them.

One of the first things she told me was about their "hyper" sexuality. VERY comman in the mentally handicap. You had to watch them constantly, they would sneak out behind the buildings, in the bathrooms, you name it.

I have read alot of the responses, but I dont think I have seen anyone ask, have you contacted her pediatrician? Maybe some more percise testing and a more precise diagnoses needs to be explored for SD. I think this may be a larger scale problem.

I would seek at least a conversation with her ped immediatly. Not to mention they can help you with finding resources

What a terrible situation to be in, I really feel for you. Like others have said, it definitely sounds like she's been abused herself and has turned into a sexual predator who targets people who are weaker than her and unable to defend themselves. That said, there is never any excuse to abuse and she is a very dangerous abuser who will continue abusing until something is done.

I live in the UK so our system is probably a little different. I get what you're saying about the school and authorities not taking it seriously, I know in the UK our "public" services are inadequate at best, and often non existent due to "lack of resources". I remember years ago I had a friend whose teenage son started taking drugs and became psychotic, aggressive and devious. She tried to get help from various sources like the doctor, the school, social workers, police etc and no one took it seriously. They deemed that he wasn't "bad" enough to be admitted to residential or psychiatric care and the police said they couldn't do anything as there was no proof he'd committed a crime. My poor friend was at her wits end as she had two toddlers who were living with their big brother's disturbing behaviour and she was terrified he would end up harming them. One day he broke into his friend's house and took the family dog for a walk and for no reason at all nearly beat the dog to death. The police were called and my friend absolutely refused point blank to have her son back in the house. She said he could no longer live at home because he was a danger to her, her little ones and the rest of the family, and she had to be very forceful as the social workers were trying their best to persuade her to have him back. It tore her in two and she found it very hard to do that to her own son, but at the same time she knew she had to protect the rest of the family and that forcing the authorities to do something was the only chance she might have of getting them to take notice and actually do something. They did take him into residential care and that's where he stayed till he eventually went to live with his father (my friend was divorced and remarried). She has always remained in touch with her son and tried to show him love and support as much as she could.

You cannot be expected to live under the same roof as this girl and if her own parents aren't prepared to act then you have to think about whether you can continue living like this. If you've tried reporting this to the authorities and they won't listen I don't know what else you as a step parent can do. You're not a prison warder and even though you're trying to watch her constantly, it's not humanly possible to have her in your sight every second of every day and this is no life at all for you. I can totally understand what you're saying about not daring to have your own kids with your dh because of his daughter, and I think you really have to decide whether you want to live the rest of your life this way, missing out on the chance of having your own children because of someone else's screwed up kid. You probably love your dh, but can you really face a lifetime of dealing with a sexual abuser??

:jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop: Your nephew's parents didn't file a police report?? At least where I live, if he goes to preschool and talks about the molesting incident, the teachers BY LAW have to report that to DFS/police. Then, it's a very real possibility nephew could be removed from thier home. You are all playing with fire. Also, if they reported, SD would get into the legal system and maybe get some kind of help. As another poster said, a crime has been committed. It's way past time to call DFS and the cops.

Get together all of your documentation, every record, every report and call the news. Make sure to highlight the fact that SD is a disabled victim who authorities refuse to help..... I guarantee you will have help coming out of your ears as soon as the school, DVDs and the cops get a call from the news station for comment.

I see that you've tried the school, police, DFCS...have you tried the CAC (Children's Advocacy Center) yet? Maybe they could get a ball rolling for yall since no one else has.

I'm sorry you all are going through this. Can't you just take her to a therapist, either by making the appointment on your own or through a referral from her pediatrician? I'm sure you are very frustrated with the government agencies. We can't know what it's like to deal with them in your area. If you don't have health insurance, surely you can track down a psychologist or counselor's office who sets their fees on a sliding scale. I live in the middle of nowhere and we have this. I'm thinking once she is in with a professional, they will know how to work through all the appropriate agencies. If not, at least she will be getting some help in the interim.

The mr/ dd agency in your area has responsibility over her. I would start calling them daily and hounding them to get her services. Suggest that you will report them to whatever agency oversees them if the do not help this child who is victimizing others. I would have them look into a group home placement for her. Also you may be able to get her services at your local community health center if she also carries a mental health diagnosis, you can also call dfs and ask them to pick her up- well I guess that this something your dh would need to do- but tell them he cannot control her and they need to assume custody and find a placement for her.

I am so sorry you are going through all of this, how horrible for every person involved. Its awful that the 'proffesionals' are not helping and no doubt will not do anything until some worse happens. I agree with a few of the posts to get your brother and the granparent to make a call in and to press charges, its tough love for SD but how else can you help her when no one is listeneing/helping. What if she does this to someone out of the family, you as her responsible adult will be hld accountable and what if someone older messes with her even more than she has been already in her short life.
Its such a sad story but you need to look after your family and that includes her by getting the family members to report and press charges otherwise they are enabling this to carry on. You sound like a very strong woman to be dealing with this.
I dont know how to say this without sounding uncaring but if she is sectioned then i'm sure there is no reason for you not to have a child with DH, conditions will be that she cannot be allowed with minors anyways I'm sure and you should not hold your life back for someones issues you (or anybody) cannot control. Other people have done the damage to her, not you, you are helping her and seems like the only one thats taking action to do so, its a shame other in her life have let this happen to her. Good luck!!

HAVE THE NEPHEW'S PARENTS FILE A POLICE REPORT. The authorities won't be able to ingore that, and it's in thier best interests to do so.