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Submitted by TheBlindside on Sat, 07/07/2018 - 12:11pm

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Not sure about this one.....So, we’re having a spring/summer clear out and DH mentioned that SD19 miniwife has asked to have some of his old Tshirts so she can wear them around the house.

i don’t really understand - I would NEVER have worn my father’s old Tshirts - ewww! I have worn my Ex of DH Tshirt but because it’s a more intimate relationship.

is it just my perspective or is this a really weird request? He did ask me if it was ok... should I say no?

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Submitted by marblefawn on Sat, 07/07/2018 - 12:57pm

I don't think it's weird -- I wear everyone's old clothes around the house. I have T-shirts from high school that I'm still wearing.

BUT...given your SD's tendency, I can see why you're hesitant. It's interesting that your husband thought to ask you. Kudos for that!

Send her some of your old T-shirts. Hee, hee...maybe that will fix her!

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Submitted by Areyou on Sat, 07/07/2018 - 12:59pm

Tell her you plan to donate the tshirts to a men's homeless shelter and that you will buy her a few brand new xtra large men's tshirts.

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Submitted by Areyou on Sat, 07/07/2018 - 1:41pm

Here's another idea.

To your husband, Say No it is not ok. Then don't respond to SD. When she asks later, say woops you already gave them to goodwill.

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Submitted by fourbrats on Sat, 07/07/2018 - 4:20pm

including oldest DD, who is my husband's stepchild, use DH's old t-shirts for sleeping, dyeing hair, wearing while cleaning etc. I did the same with my dad and have never found it weird or strange or considered it intimate. 

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Submitted by TheBlindside on Sun, 07/08/2018 - 6:30am

Thanks for your responses - for those not understanding why DH discussed this with me or why it’s even an issue ... please read my previous posts.

in summary SD19 is a classic miniwife who has on occasion very inappropriate behaviour which has led strangers to presume SD is DH wife - she is very hands on to say the least - we are trying to. change this for the sake of our relationship and also for SD mental health and future relationships.

DH has accepted this is an issue and is very aware of her inappropriate behaviours and we discuss this openly between us which is why he told me.

Either way between us we have agreed that the response to the question will be a tactful no.