The strange things do not end. Yesterday when I was at work, my husband made a post on a facebook group about me. It was not a mean post, and the people in the group were mostly nice and seemed to have good intentions, but it was informative since it showed me how badly he missed the point of most things I have said.

He made me sound like an angry person who takes out my anger for his ex-wife on their son because he reminds me of her. He said every conversation comes back to her, so of course this means I am angry with her and take this out on the kid. The people in the group decided I definitely need a lot of therapy to deal with my issues that cause misplaced anger. Some said I was probably a narcissist. They all misunderstood the truth because my husband did not tell them. The truth is, I am not angry with his ex-wife. I simply do not like his son.

I told him numerous times for the three years we live together that the reason I do not like his son is his son's personality. He is a hyper kid, very spoiled, sullen, loud, rude. He hits people, demands different food at meals, and refuse to play outside, ride bicycle, or anything most kids enjoy. This is why I do not like him.

I have also explained numerous times that I do not like him because since the first day he came to my house, I have had no place to escape him. My husband always allowed him in the bedroom. He put some of his toys in our closet, so his son would come into our bedroom without knocking, run through our bathroom, into our closet, and get whatever he wanted. There was not one centimeter of my home that was safe from him. My husband says this is ok since he never damaged anything. I say it does not matter. I do not want him in every place in my home. I do not consent to this!

I explained this all again as he read me the post, pleased with himself, that these people gave him such good advice about how to deal with his hateful crazy wife. He then became angry, shouting at me many times to shut up even when I had said nothing, when I tried to explain why I do not like his son. Then he said hearing this was like a trigger for him. I explained some more, "You feel this is like a trigger for you to hear I do not like your son? It feels like a trigger to me when I walk into here after work, and see a strange child eating chips in the same place I had sex with my husband several hours before. I think this is disgusting. I told you before we moved in together that I keep a "no kids" rule in my bedroom. I explained why and you told me too bad, you want your son in the room with you. I explained that I am major introvert, and need personal space, and why my own kids had never been allowed in my room, and you told me again that this did not matter. This is why every time I look at your son, I want to throw him into the street. This is why I secretly wished his mother won when she tried to move him to Canada. He is the tool you use to show me how much you disrespect me, and I will always feel sick when I look at him because you use him to violate me many times each day he comes here."

He then said he had no idea I was serious about the bedroom and that it is a good idea to have it without kids. He said he thought it was something I only wanted and not a need for space. He has fought me about this for all the years we live together, I have explained it maybe one hundred times exactly this way and other ways, saying each time this is not something I want, it is something I need. Then he says only today he understand this. Do you think this is acting? I think this is acting. He promised he will keep his son out of the bedroom now and no longer allow him to take bath in my bathtub because that bothers me also. He said in exchange, I must be nice to his son, speak to him, have conversation. I do not think I can do this. I have been disengaged for years, and since I am leaving, I truly do not care, but I thought it interesting that only now does he offer me the echange I would have made three years ago and been happy.

Of course, I do not think he will do these things, and I am still planning to leave. Is it pathological that I am a little bit amused by the things he says and expect I will believe?