As I suspected she would..asking dad to fix her problem
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So SD and family got moved back and are thankfully in their own place now. She’s job hunting and of course applies to jobs that will be a logistical nightmare for childcare with her husband’s work schedule. So DH got the call this evening to help her so she can take this after school hours job. He declined! So glad. I overheard him suggest she not work this year until her youngest was in school full time and pretty sure I can predict how that conversation went. Poor kid would do better in daycare anyway. No structure in their home at all. Just complete chaos. Will be interesting to see how this goes with them living in town now. I’m probably going to need y’all!
Moved back?
What was the reason she moved back?
They had moved to another
They had moved to another state to be near her husband’s family. His mother passed away a couple years ago and the remaining family is quite dysfunctional according to them. so they decided to move back to be closer to her family. I just wish she was a nicer person to be around.
I'm put second.
My SD 32 really has quite a poor relationship with her father. She uses us we are treat ed rudely by her husband and the rest of her family. She only calls when she wants something. My husband and I have had huge arguments because of this. I have decided to disengage but things hurt me so badly. Now she calls him for childcare its not him who cares for the kids. She calls even though we have other plans. She no longer calls the home phone DH husband rarely answers Hus mobile. So now she call s her half brother my son to run interference. She has never done thus before. Thus is all because some weeks ago I expressed to her u didn't like how I was treated. I can't speak instead of an apology now I'm isolated. I no disengagement would do this but I just so damn hurt. I don't deserve it.
I can relate
Congratualtions that your DH told her no. I wish my DH could use that term more frequently. Wouldn't it be nice if they could just be genuine and have real relationships without a price tag on them or a need that they could take care of themselves.
ar least your dh has a
at least your dh has a backbone. one of my skids has been chronically underemployed since she dropped out of college. she cant get a living wage. naturally when she is having health issues she reaches out to daddy money bags and he offers to "help" with her medical bills. (this means he is paying for them all.) int he meantime sd has money for drugs and designer things. i suspect dh is also paying for her rent.
be thankful your dh has a set of balls.
While I get the multi
While I get the multi generational villiage model in raising kids.... My bride and I always made sure to not pawn the raising or our kid (my Skid) off to my parents. My mom would have loved it but raising him was our job. We never asked for them to watch him though my brother and his wife would dump their 3 off with mom and dad on short notice quite frenquently. My mom used to call to inform us that she was coming to get her grandson. When she did that.. we gladly accomodated her wishes.
That your SD has the balls to try to impose on her father is mind boggling to me. Particularly after burring her MIL and once that source of help was gone and the rest of SIL's family likely wouldn't step in to care for her spawn. People should not have children that they can't feed, raise and care for independently. For those who can do it successfully I have no issue with a high level of participation from extended family... for those who can't or more importantly won't.... I think extended family needs to be a very limited presence in the lives of those pseudo adults and their children until the pseudo adults figure it out rather than pawning the results of their spawning off onto the shoulders of others.