When I moved in with my dh, we slowly replaced pieces of furniture and decorations. we repainted. It took me a long time to feel like it was my home as well and not just my dh and his ex's home. I don't blame you about not wanting to hear about court. my dh's ex is a mean mean person and sends him a lot of hate email and i occasionally have to tell him that I don't want to hear about it because I need a break from it. Now his daughter does the same thing so I just keep the statment " always move forward" running through my head. sometimes it works , sometimes it doesn't. 

I literally burned 3/4 of the crap from storage. So yes. I'm going to call it normal. I don't like having anything in our home that was from THAT home. It's different and I was mine to be a plac eof solitude. Plus let's face it. With High conflict Psycho BMs and Skids who regurgitate, they're going to say crap if that stuff is still around. Better to avoid it imho.

In other news. I'm cleaning out the garage today too... Which means goodbye to more stuff I won't allow in my house!

Don't feel guilty. You feel guilty because you feel immature, which you're not. It's just territorial and wanting a home you and your SO built together rather than one with a few of your things and a whole ton of their crap. it makes you feel isolated is all.

So burn away!

All of those feelings are completely normal. Now, I don't live in the house that DH and BM shared. However, there are things of hers that she left behind that she wanted back. DH didn't send them. Since I know she FB stalks us, I like to take pictures with certain things in the background. Petty, I know, but I have to get my digs in when I can!

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DH moved into the house we share now by himself.  I did carry a few boxes and help with heavy furniture but all of it was his...except for a set of wine glasses that were hand painted.  He does not drink wine and when I asked why he had kept them, he said "well you drink wine".   I would stick to a pint glass and never brought it up again.

I would only touch those glasses when friends came over.  I am FAR from a clumsy person, but don't ya know I broke two glasses in one hour??? HMMMMM

Nothing was said and that Christmas I opened a gift from DH and they were beautiful wine glasses that I had been eyeing up.  He personally took those horrible painted ones down and dropped them hard into the recycle bin so they broke!!

Didn't feel bad about it once.

After all the time you have spent with your ear bent over all the ex-drama (ex meaning child, custody fights, divirce), no wonder you have "ex-fatigue" I have had to deal with ToxicTroll for more than 5 years now - from listening to his battles, listening to stories of her drunken abuse, and how she used to beat on him in front of the childre...etc. They were separated-not-divorced when I first came into his picture, and still were at that point when we brought our relationship to the next more permanent level. She really wasnt anywhere at that point, because DH had paid to move her out and then had garage sale after garage sale, and bought entirely new furniture, gave stuff away, gave her their television (scratched screen but oh well...) Everything was new but the interior - paint fixtures, etc.

So, when I first moved in a few years ago, I replaced a faded ugly poster with an original painting by a friend of mine that I really love. "what happened to that picture in the bathroom?" Yeah, um, its well, somewhere...in the garbage dump...

We are currently going to buy THIS house, fix it up and then sell the mofo to have a fresh start. The house is all about us, his previous life is nowhere. My plants have taken over, my art, our art, our stuff, our new antique furniture. The last thing was an old flaking mirror that I had loved, that he had promised her while they were separating prior to me moving in. The morning after he told me she was asking for it (I had loved this mirror!) I told him, "get rid of it, take it down, dump it off and absolutely do NOT hang it!" 

Of course she asked him to hang it for her, and he refused, nicely as always. It still sits dusty in a corner of the dark, disgusting apartment she lives in, according to DH. Meanwhile, DH found a beautiful NEW one online on facebook marketplace for a really excellent price, and I LOVE it, it looks fabulous. 

Fresh things, fresh energy. You want and need that, for yourself. Because you have "Ex Fatigue".

Nope couldnt do what your doing. 

We just bought a new house. Love it! Everything in it is ours, not all new but all ours.

SD(29) spent the summer traveling. She gave up her apartment and moved in with MIL/FIL (her Gparents) for the few weeks before she left and is living there now till she decides where she wants to live.

She was going to sell all her stuff before she left but that simply didn't make any sense. She's going to need her bed and and her furniture in a few weeks once she finds a new place. Our new house has lots of storage space and so I suggested that she bring her stuff here. What I failed to realize was that a majority of her stuff is BMs stuff!!!

As most parents do when their kids move out, BM gave SD a bunch of furniture, art work and sundry stuff. She also gave her some large items to use until BM decides she wants them back.

Everything is BMs decorating style, it isnt hideous but I don't want to look at it everyday in my house! The art work has her name scrawled on the back, like someone might steal it. I've thought about a bon fire but I'll just have to settle for the fact that SD will be coming to get everything sometime soon. I hope!