Livid
I cant sleep, its eating me up inside. I know that there are worse things in stepworld and I know I have bigger problems than this, but I am so LIVID, my stomach is in knots.
ToxicTrolls' sister, HomelessTroll has been booted out of the skanky apartment. She smokes like a chimney, and the room she was in smells bad. I know its for the benefit of the child, but Munchkin calls her father for EVERYTHING. Do we have this, do we have that, and now they took the steam cleaner machine, to clean the room, and I am seeing complete red right now.
When will I be the one and only wife? DH has had to explain to ToxicTroll, that no, she cannot borrow this, cannot borrow that, cannnot use the truck, he is NOT going to hang her mirror for her, certainly NOT going to measure her apartment for her. NO more fixing her car. I thought it was clear, when he spoke with her on the phone.
So now she is using Munchkin SD12 to do her borrowing for her. When I found out yesterday, after coming home from work, I blew my stack. I try not to take it out on DH - he wants what is best for Munchkin. Having a clean room of her own is best, for when she is not with us. But you can rent one for $20.
So, I will have to buy that frigging steam cleaner and get that chit back to my house pronto. Its a rug doctor. And DH will have to get it together and have a conversation with Munchkin. No sweety, nothing from here is going over there, so please do not ask. The other day, when ToxicTroll bought her ANOTHER rabbit, she called asking if we had "an extra cage". NO, we freaking do not have anything to go over there. DH just said we do not, but never addressed it, so now here we are. Back to square one.
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Take deep breaths. I know how
Take deep breaths. I know how fustrating this is and in your mind you want it all to just stop. Its like a never ending issue and you want to see the light of day. Hugs and keep your head up. This will not be forever.
Thanks!
Hugs back.
Yes, 5 years and 8 months to go until freaking child support is done.
1 year and 5 months to go for alimony to stop.
ugggg.
Wait - the kid lugged the
Wait - the kid lugged the steam cleaner from your house to hers? I'm confused. Or did DH lend it to her?
With normal exes, the impact on your life is minimal. It's the crazy ones that never go away. And don't think ending child support and alimony will be the end of it, either - she's going to be around for life. Be sure she will fight the gravy train ending, which will cause you stress and money for court. And even when the cash flow stops, she will always be the kid's mother and so therefore, in the periphery. Why does your DH talk to her about anything other than direct care for the kid?
I love my DH and we have a good life together, but I sometimes wonder as well - can I live with this crazy person in my life forever?
Cant get her out of my life!
Like the song.
She has Munchkin SD12 text and call him now, to do her borrowing for her. Because earlier this year, when she wanted to borrow his truck, and wanted him to measure her apartment to see if furniture would fit, he had to tell her "No, CLove is not happy with that," So, he used me as his excuse, but at least her told her no. And now she has her child tugging his heartsrings for more.
Im mad because after court, we DISCUSSED this. I thought it was clear, but I see now it will be a daily struggle.
No, ToxicTroll did the moving I believe. DH will hopefully pick it up after work tonight. ToxicTroll isnt working, and Munchkin is on break this week, so there is no need to have it there more than two days (yesterday and today).
Clove some people have zero
Clove some people have zero boundaries. They feel their needs are the only thing that matters. You matter. Sorry you are so stressed. I understand your frustration. Hugs!
Boundaries Violated
She absolutely does NOT respect anyones boundaries, not at all. And she taught her children the same things. She is definitely a sociaopathic Narcissist, no doubt about that. Very selfish. Shame on DH for allowing it for so long, and allowing it to continue.
Hugs back, and thank you!
It’s more then DH is a nice guy
And wants the best for his DD. He still tied up with BM. Do you really think that support is going to Stop? It’s always going to be BM needs money, Money for DD to live at BM house. You have to put Your foot t down..
Nothing goes to, including DH goes to BM house ! DH has to cut contact with BM, any contacts should only be in text or e mails so you can keep track of whatngoing on. You have to keep controls of your money somDH does not pay for everything B wants.
enmeshed
I feel they are still enmeshed. At least ToxicTroll is. And I am girding for a battle when her money stops - she wont like it, but more alimony is not going to happen.
You know what.....it's high
You know what.....it's high time your husband STOPS saving bm and yes that also includes his daughter.
Nothing will ever change in that house until BM is uncomfortable. IF her lack of low bar care changes the current custody plan than so be it. ITS BM's duty to take care of her daughter when the child is with her..... DH's when dh has her.
UPDATE - HUGE FIGHT ***
I thought DH was on the same page. He thinks that I am sick because the lack of boundaries is upsetting me. He thinks that I am being ridiculous and need to stop letting this upset me, or our marriage will not work. He thinks I am out of line. I ruined his day, talking about boundaries and enforcing them. He got really mad, and I just hung up. I told him that Munchkin relaying the contents of our household wasa violation of my boundaries, hence the emotional outburst last night. I told him that ToxicTroll has never respected our boundaries and for years it was normal to him, but he thinks that there is something severely wrong with ME.
I just dont know if our marriage can survive this lack of respect, and the ensuing backlash. Im sick to mystomach, but need the money. Money is freedome and choices. Im so sad at DH's reaction. I thought he would be on the same page, but we arent even in the same ballpark.