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BM2 hits an all time low

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Submitted by Cooooookies on Fri, 01/04/2019 - 3:07am

She has given up on DH after the Boxing Day Rejection #4278.  All is quiet, not even a happy new year text, as has happened the past 7 years.  Result.

Yesterday she sends texts to DH regarding flights for SS16 to visit her next month during his school break.  Okay fine no problem.  Then her last text "You should help SS set up a bank account, he told me he wants one."  DH was confused as SS has no money and never mentioned anything so found it odd.  He didn't respond.

DH decided he'd ask SS about it.  This is how the convo went:

DH:  SS your BM told me that you want to open your own bank account.  Which is fine but 1. you don't have any money really and 2. why didn't you just ask me?

SS:  I never asked to open a bank account, dad.

DH:  You never talked to your mum about wanting an account?

SS:  No dad...I don't have any money, like you said, and I would just ask you if I wanted one.

DH:  Oh ok, well your mum sent me a text about it but never mind, that's fine.  When you do start working and earning money, it's no problem.  We'll open an account for you.

SS:  Ok.  Dad...I was wondering though where my money is from Nanny? (MIL who passed away just over two years ago).

DH:  What money from Nanny?  Nanny and Grandad have joint accounts in both their names.  So when Nanny died, it all went to Grandad.  When Grandad dies, it goes to me and some money will be left for you.

SS:  Ohhhh...so where's my money from Grandad?

DH:  Well Grandad hasn't died yet so he still has all of his and Nanny's money.  That's how it works when you're married.  Just like me and Cookies.  When I die, everything will be left to Cookies.  When Cookies dies, everything will be split between you and her DS18.  I would never, ever try to take money from you SS, unlike other people in this world.  You just remember that, ok?

SS:  Ok dad.

The only person who could've told SS that he should have money from when MIL died is BM2.  Then she lies, saying he wants an account, so she can get her greedy talons on it.  SS wouldn't have a clue and readily hand over any bank card he might have because he trusts that his own BM is a good person.  All roads are a dead end with DH so lets attack the innocent, autistic child of mine!

THIS is exactly why anything he inherits will forever be held in a Trust and run by an appointee that will NEVER EVER be BM2.  We predicted this would happen one day and it finally has.  This woman is literally the biggest piece of human sh*t I know.

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TheEvilStepmomStrikesBack's picture

Submitted by TheEvilStepmomS... on Fri, 01/04/2019 - 3:16am

Don’t you just love greedy BMs? At lease your DH can openly talk to his son without bashing his mom. 

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Submitted by Cooooookies on Fri, 01/04/2019 - 3:21am

He never does bash BM2 when talking to SS16.  It gets harder and harder though.  He might be on the spectrum but he's not stupid.  He's asking more and more questions and it's challenging to answer them neutrally.  She disgusts me.

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Submitted by tog redux on Fri, 01/04/2019 - 5:23am

Gah, what a vulture she is, circling around and waiting for him to die.

Is your SS disabled enough that DH can get guardianship of him at 18? Otherwise, BM is going to take advantage of him in any way possible - claiming any government money, etc.

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Submitted by Cooooookies on Fri, 01/04/2019 - 10:20am

DH has already begun changing that as he had collected disability benefit for SS. When he turned 16, he had to reapply as they consider SS as an "adult". There has been meetings at hone to prove address as well as what DH had written on the application. 

There is no way BM2 could do any of that as she doesn't even live here.   One good thing anyway...

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Fri, 01/04/2019 - 8:26am

Cookies, all this does is make me LOATHE the future because I have a feeling we'll be dealing with similar from BM AND MIL AND BIL when FIL passes. And DH has been tapped, as the executor so it's not like we can get out of it. Everyone will have their hands out, and I have a feeling DH will get the least despite putting in the most work to make it "equitable".

Your YBM2 is just awe-inspiring, and not in a good way.

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Submitted by Chmmy on Fri, 01/04/2019 - 9:00am

This is why my money is hidden in accounts for my kids and when my parents die the money will have to go to my kids. My dad worked 3 jobs, saved and went without and invested his way in to being a millionaire.

I worked 2-3 jobs at a time as a single mom. Put 2 kids through college and still came out with over 30,000. 

BM & the skids blow through every dime they have with perfect nails & hair. They will never see a dime of the money my dad and I worked so hard for.

My son is 22 and has saved $20,000 already. SDs struggle to save $20 but they dont have to. If there is an emergency like car repairs, dont worry daddeeee will fix it. You can pay him back later.

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Submitted by Cooooookies on Fri, 01/04/2019 - 10:22am

Yeah she will never be able to touch his money.  Can't wait for those fireworks when it all shakes out...

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Submitted by bananaseedo on Fri, 01/04/2019 - 10:25am

BM did this by having sd ask for more money over and over when my FIL died.  He left insurance for my MIL and his pension of course....obviously nothing was set aside for SD to be honest.

Worse part is? My BIL took POA and ahold of MIL's bank account and basically stole every last cent from her- AND was taking from her pension to pay his CS (his wife left him about a year after FIL passed).  So basically now my SO gets nothing.  Well, she did start a modest life insurance where only he is beneficiary-but I have a feeling unless she makes him POA instead then BIL will find a way to eff him over too.

My MIL is so dysfunctional/enabling though...you all woudl not believe some of the ish that goes on.  We just stay away.