I wouldn be staying on the hotel for at least 3 days. He needs to learn his lesson.

For how I'm feeling about DH right now that would be final nail in the coffin for me.

My ex did this to me all. The. Time!!!! It drove me crazy! He was mostly absent minded about it I think. We were together 12 years and I don’t think he held a torch for her anymore. He never did it during sex though. I feel your frustration. Let him know how you feel. Truly feel. Hurt, mad, sad. Your feelings are valid and he needs to understand how it affected you. 

Is he coming down with dementia or opiod abuse???  W  T  F!!   I'm so sorry he did that to you.  

So my non existent couch pscyshology says he’s back with BM and cheating on you.

My response would have been “oh sh@t DH is that you?  The last time I was screwed deaf dumb and blind was with Eduardo in Spain...lol guess you got lucky this time!”

I say maybe just a slip of the tongue. I am getting older and occasionally refer to DH by my dearly departed’s name. Nothing sinister implied.

As much as I'd like to think I'd be the bigger person and believe what he said, I know that if SO called out BM's name he would have no reason to be calling out any names for a loooong time.  I can't even imagine how hurt and upset you must be.  Men are idiots.  OK, not all men, but too many of them, and your DH is in the idiot category right now.

DH called me BM’s name once, but we were out somewhere they used to frequent & he ran into an old friend. He introduced me as BM & I very quickly said ‘actually I’m Monkeysee but it’s nice to meet you’. I was pissed, but we hadn’t been together long & circumstances made it more understandable.

This though? In BED?!?!? Agree with everyone above, check yourself into a nice hotel - on his dime - and rack up room service. What an A$$!

Ugh, I’d never want to be in bed with DH again if he called me that wankers name like that. Just no.

Trust your gut on this as well, if you thought he was checking her out a while ago, is it possible something is going on?? 

Oooh I'd be hopping mad. But this has never happened to me. 

My YSS - at the beginning - sometimes called me by my partner's ex-girlfriend's name. But whatever... I call him by my son's name (especially when I'm telling him off!). It doesn't help that BS and YSS actually do have the same name. 

My exH did this to his current fiancee.  At the time, I wasn't even talking to him, hadn't been for about 2 years.  Had him blocked from everything and thought I'd never talk to him again.  So it wasn't cheating or any other inappropriate behavior from either one of us.  I hadn't even spoken to him for several years.

It was guilt on his part.  He hates all he'd done to me and carries the weight on his shoulders.  We've never discussed it as it's his issue and his fiancee understood but it must've stung like heck.

My point is it's not always sexual or wanting.  Does he feel guilty/remorse/angry/etc?  It's not always sexual wanting that makes guys do this.

If it was just a random slip of the tongue, it wouldn't bother me  - during sex, that's another matter.

My DH has called me by his Ex's name a couple of times.. when he was super angry at me for something..lol.  He said that I reminded him of her in THOSE moments... haha

That’s BAD!!!!!! 

Sooo... If I was in your shoes. DH would find himself single real quick. Of course we have other issues right now we're going thorugh, but that would be it. No more chances, no working through it. The SECOND he said BM's name like that it would be done. Even if he insists it means nothing, deep down I would wonder if subconciously it did to him. And I couldn't live like that.

I can't even imagine how angry I would be. I don't have any advice. I like the idea of getting away for a couple of days. However, I don't think this is divorce worthy and I also don't think that this means he is cheating. He does need to be made fully aware of the hurt this casued though.

He's obviously fantasizing about her and can't control himself. What a pig!  

Oh no. I'm so sorry.

During sex, this would be a HUGE problem for me. 

DH and I have both slipped up and called eachother our ex's names a couple times throughout our relationship, but only when we're in a huge fight. We both fought with our ex's A LOT so when it happened, we knew it was out of habit from yelling at said ex lol. During sex though, that's scary. 

I don't think it's divorce worthy or a sign that he's cheating either, but I would absolutely assume he's not over BM - especially if you caught him checking her out. I would have a serious talk with him about what he wants, or better yet, who he wants. Because if he's still hung up on his ex, that's not any good for the relationship you two have together. 

I would like to say this was just a slip of his tongue...but then I read your post from December.

My concern is he still has feelings for her, and worst case after running into her at Walmart he started thinking about her, or worse has been in contact that has nothing to do with their kids. 

Has there been any other signs? Has he been distant from you, hides his phone or email, out more often? 

You really need to ask him WTH is going on.