It's not easy
I know I made the best decision to leave my ex because it was just toxic and it was not a good match. All we did was fight and all he did was accuse me of talking to guys behind his back and cheating.He would spy through my phone, facebook etc and would find nothing and would accuse me of hiding messages from men. He would fight with me every three weeks and break up with me, and I kept going back. We were not a good match and didn't belong together but it doesn't make it easy. Honestly I don't even think he liked me at all, because he never treated me good.
When my child was sick he made me take a lyft home, and even threatened to leave us in front of a supermarket. I should have left a lot sooner, because I knew the guy didn't like me. He let his son threaten to hit me, let him be rude and disrespectful and not say please or thank you, let him bully my son and hide his phone, let him chew my sons game to pieces. It was awful. He let him disrespect my mothers house it was just awful. I should have realized from the beginning he really didn't like me to much.
If he really did like me and wanted to be a blended family he would have went to counseling to work on his trust issues and insecurities and he would have set rules and boundaries for his child. I just needed to vent because this is not easy. It's necessary and had to happen, but not easy.
agreeto
oh I know I made the right decision for my son and I. It was a toxic relationship and I just did not want my son to see it anymore. No relationship is perfect but when I am constantly not being trusted and accused of cheating and talking to people, and him always thinking he knows everything and is a mind reader just wasn't healthy. I keep reminding myself that he didn't really like me because he wouldn't have treated me so awful. An animal is treated with me respect.And the child was just out of control. He promised counseling to get help and he promised to set rules for his kid and he never followed through. He said I was the liar. No he was the liar. He made all these promises and he never followed through.
I told him from the beginning if you don't trust me then we should not be together and he swore up and down he trusts me then he would always say he didn't trust me. He promised counseling and he never followed through. I believe if he really had feelings for me he would have been honest and would have gotten help which proves I was not the one for him. It's ok not everyone is a match. But I am not thrilled about getting strung along for a year.
Well you know what they say -
Well you know what they say - better to have loved and lost than to live with an idiot for the rest of your life! You know you made the right choice for you and your child. It just sucks that your time was wasted. On the bright side, at least you didn't have kids with him so you can wash your hands and be completely done with him. It can only get better from here!
flmomma08
Yes it stinks I wasted my time on someone who did not give a crap about me, or he would have changed and got help, and set rules for his kiddo.
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