Are there BM's with no step kids on the forum?  Yes, there are some.  Enough said lol.  

I am neither.
Free internet - for now - and I don't feel it necessary to police the viewpoints of a diverse community present here, whatever their breeding/marital status.

Opinions I don't like/disagree with,  I ignore or challenge.
You can scroll on.
On blogs, the delete button is your friend.

I got dumped on a few times in the beginning because I was defending a really messed up situation: sometimes you can learn from people who give you advice you don't like or may seem harsh.
A contrary view is not necessary wrong, even if it is delivered with all the subtley of a sledgehammer.

All I can say is that this site and some of the people here  (or even gone now) saved me from making one of the worst mistakes of my life and I remain ever grateful to people here.
Except of course to the annoying occassional trolls and irritating shit stirrers
You will get to know the difference.

This is an open internet site - don't take it overly seriously or  personally.

Yes, there a couple who are only BMs who dislike stepmothers and come here to push their agenda.

And would NEVER suggest that a SM should love her Stepkids.   In my household, we expect that everyone be civil to each other.  Love cannot be mandated, and frankly, imho, will not likely occur unless the marriage occurs when the kids are very young, or for quite a number of years.

I’d love to lurk on a BM board....

how dare she marry my ex

how dare they have a child

how dare they take my kids to a movie

Any advice on how to totally PAS the kids in revenge?

what are your tips for keeping control of your exes house?

My EX won’t engage with me anymore do you guys have some good threats I can use on him to scare him into submission?

so I’ve told the in-laws, family, the school, the doctor about what an awful parent my ex is....am I forgetting anyone?

this single parent thing is so hard.....on top of the 1k a month child support and my ex having the kids 50 percent of the time....I just can’t do all this by myself 

"BM's and DH"s and SKIDS oh my!" I'm pretty sure there are a ton of BM's on here keeping a low profile trying to figure out which SM is their precious childs wicked SM!

Yes, there are several-there are also several who claim they are both but post solely like GUBM's would-in fact I saw most of them on this thread already lol .  There are about 5-6 that regularly go after the sm's in a way that reminds me of times past on the board

I'm also just a BM at this point, I too was "liberated" from steplife - although I'm told everything is still my fault - go figure. 

Basically there are aholes here of many different persuasions. 

Bottom line is there is seriously something wrong with a BM who wastes their time coming to this forum to get involved in conversations and input opinions into SM posts.  

We come here because we share a bond and an issue and look for validation and advice.  They come here because they have waaaayyyyyyyyy too much time on their hands and probably a bit of insecurity about the SM situation and want to feed their insecurity by bashing SM's.  Something is wrong with them not us!  They should just be ignored!!  

I am a BM and SM.  SM to adult skids and BM to adult and almost adults.  I have worked out most of the SM issues by disengaging and turning everything back to DH. There were many responsibilities I took on that were in no way my responsibility. These grown men had their lives, they have a mother and a father. Their first family drama is completely theirs and I keep a far radius from it.  I understand that they have dysfunction from the drama DH and BM inflicted on them but there is absolutley nothing I can do about it and I will not be their punching bag or door mat.  

As a BM reading on this site I do admit that my eyes roll to the back of my head sometimes. I read about these saintly divorced men who the OP claims had no part in breaking up their first families and who are Father of the Year and the Love of my Life...the only problem is those horrible children and his ex wife (who he's often still legally married to).   As a BM who heard the nastiest untrue things about myself after my divorce, I take these one sided stories with a grain of salt. 

As a mother (BM) I will do everything I can to take care of my kids and make sure they have the best life possible. Right now I'm in the process of readjusting child support because my children have the right to be supported by both parents. I do make less than my ex because I stupidly supported him by working minimum wage jobs and juggling being a mother while he focused on school and graduate school.  I thought I was investing in my future but in the end it was all about him.  I am still working on my first degree because I have had the kids almost full time while he's went off and lived his life and built his career child free. He's pays a miniscule amount that was ordered over a decade ago and is fighting any change saying that I should just get a better job and work more.  

This man has seen his minor child exactly 18 overnights in the last 3 years because he says, "I work" and "I have to work on my relationship (his 3rd marriage)." I know the horrible lies he tells about me because my kids parrot them back to me all the while my tongue is bleeding from biting it so hard so I don't say anything negative about him.  It's ridiculous that he tries to alienate them from me and put himself in a positive light when he never sees them and he has joint custody and 50% visitaiton, he just chooses not to exercise it.  Maybe the system isn't fair but neither is divorce fair. Statistically a woman's standard of living plummets while the mans escalates.  

Anytime I see a SM with bad english posting about her horrible step children and how the BM is such a lazy loser I wonder if it's exH's third wife, the rich divorcee, whose child is a trust fund kid, coming to complain that I dare ask for more child support.  

I know for a FACT my DH’s crazy BM has been on here looking for me to see if she can dig up dirt on me or us. “Comments” have been made in family court/Mediation. This being said I’ve changed just enough details for her NOT to be able to prove anything in court but enough to get the wonderful help from everyone on here. Oh I’ve Also had to make three different accounts to keep the her from Piecing things together. Again I think she has but nothing she can prove in court so that’s all that maters.