The short question (feel free to skip the novel!) Does *Anyone* have any idea if I can move out of the Province while pregnant?  (not married, common law with no other bio kids between us) I tried to find stuff online, but it's mostly USA based.  I'm going to call to make an appointment with a lawyer tomorrow but I'm dying to know.   His DNA is documented in the midwife's files, as I had to get amniocentesis last week.  Ugh.

Shit has hit the fan.  I have a big giant OOPS pregnancy and I'm 17 weeks along.  It's been nothing but a disaster.  

Long story short; I don't trust SS (6 YO).  I am worried that he will hurt this baby.  He has a history of aggression and inappropriate touching, both documented, I think by the school ans CAS (child services; his mother has been investigated for 2 years).  Found out he was hitting and spitting at and scratching a kid last week on the bus at camp.  This sparked the fear that his behaviour will not change without intervention.

DH and I (we are actually common law, not legally married) are having a huge fight.  He hasn't slept here in 3 days.  I told him that i fear for our baby and that if he wants to reconcile we need to go to therapy, his kid needs to go to his own therapy (which I suggested ages ago, and the CAS worker did as well...), we need a strict list of rules for his kid and the baby (NO alone time ever, no touching other than feet...).  The kid also gets huge, atrocious cold sores on his face every other week which can be a fatal virus for a baby, so the no touching is a double whammy.  His kid is a sneaky, manipulative little shit and I have no doubt that once he realizes the baby is getting the attention, he will hurt her when no one is watching.  

Well, DH LOST HIS SHIT that I suggested this.  SImply told me he won't be talking to me for a while and that I am not to call or text him.  If he can't take his head out of his ass long enough to reconize his kid's shit behaviour, than he is NOT someone I want to parent my baby.  I already was nervous about him as a father to my kid, as he's not the greatest to his own.  (IE: no parenting at all; the child will be a deviant).

Now I'm trying to make a game plan.  I would not hate to move away to another Province.  My ExH would be happy for me to do so, as he works 50% of the year out in BC, and honestly, BC was the only place I've ever lived that felt like home!  I have about 25K saved up of my own money and I own 45% of the shares in our business (building bought for $700K, probably worth about $900K with the renos we did).  I also invested in his house renos and paid a lot of the mortgage, so I would see a chunk from that, if he wants to be a complete prick.

But even more than money, I don't want him to have unsupervised access to this baby.  He ditched his kid when he was an infant, for years, to his mother 80% of the time he had custody and his mother is a sh*t guardian.  Plus, she's had dirt bag BM live with her TWICE in the last couple of years and I absolutely refuse to let my baby catch a whiff of that dirty XXXX sack.  (sorry).

This is like all of my nightmares coming true.  I feel so dumb for letting myself fall so hard for a stupid guy and for sticking it out despite the 6000 red flags that smashed me in the face.