H came home for a long weekend (he had 5 days off) and announced we were going to build a fence. This would be because H's boss objected to H having his dog at the apartment, and I told him the dog cannot stay here while I'm at work because he poos and pees in the house. So, we are building a fence.

Friday morning before going to work I helped measure for it. Then went to work. H went and played cards, but did have the post holes dug by the time I got home.

Get up bright and early Sat., we work on the fence. Until 1:00, when H suddently announces he needs to go see his girls. We had plans to go to the movie Sat. nite, so I asked what time he'd be home. He said he'd make it for the movie. I was still puzzled about why he was going so early, as SD14 is now working and would be at work until 4:00. About 5:00 H calls and says he won't make it for the movie. He is working on SD18's car!

Before I go on, let me back up. SD18 had my old car. We paid for any repairs it needed, except when it was keyed (new paint job, ruined). And except for the damage she and her friends did to it (the back doors no longer work). SD18 also threw a fit about a month ago, accusing us of giving her a "piece of crap for a car". Because it is an economy 4 door, not a sports car.

So SD18 decided she wanted her Mothers old car-a firebird, the same year as my old car. It has sat for 2 years without even being started. H was po'd. He said that if she did that, he would not help her with it. It would be on her own, and if it doesn't run, too bad. After the attitude she took towards us and the car we basically gave her.

So what was H doing at SD18's all Sat.? Working, of course, on the car SD18 bought from BM.

Sunday, we worked on cleaning up the mud mess around the fence posts. It took all day.

Meanwhile, H is whining and bitching about having to work on his days off (on the fence, for his dog). Um, it was my days off too. But then, I'm from the real world, where you do work around home on your days off. H was also bitching because while I was at work, he had no one to help him and had to do it all alone. Ummm, I can't be in two places at one time.

So, Monday morning, when I get up, H is out back. With SD18 and her car! Oh, poor widdle thing, her car don't run right. So here's the 1/4 finished fence project, but H is turning all of his time and attention to SD18 and her car. She does not come into the house, I do not go outside, I do not speak to her, she does not speak to me.

At noon, while I was getting ready for work, H calls me on the cell and asks if I want a sandwhich for lunch. I said yes. So he goes and gets sandwhiches for all, comes in & throws mine on the table and rushes out to eat with SD18.

When I leave for work, that's how things stand. H did come into the house momentairly, and I just kind of looked at him. He asked-what's wrong? I said nothing. He asked again. I said you told me you weren't working on that car. H said I CAN HELP MY DAUGHTER. You help YOUR son! I said yes, I help my son. But he helps us too. He finished painting the living room. He helped me move. He painted the bathroom. He mows the lawn when he's here. He shovels snow when he's here. SD18 does nothing. I told him to give her a rake. All the hours he was working on her car, she was sitting in the sun, chatting it up on her cell phone. That, of course, po'd H big time. How dare I suggest his princess lift one finger?

So when I got home from work Mon. nite, H has a LITTLE bit of the wire up on the fence. He was supposed to be returning to work...but now he put it off a day because he spent all day working on SD18's car, and didn't get the fence done for HIS dog. I spent the rest of the evening helping him put the rest of the wire up. You see, SD18 should never have to lift a finger for anything, but good 'ole bewitched should go to work and come home and help him. Hmmmm. What's wrong with this picture?

Tues. morning I helped H put wood on the fence. I cleaned, did laundry, went to the dentist, and was getting ready for work when I heard H on the phone. Very quietly saying "she's still here-talk later". Referring to the fact that I hadn't left for work yet.

So I came out and asked if he had been talking to SD18. Of course. Of course he was. They have to keep their little secrets and plot behind Bewitched's back, or they're not happy.

Earlier H had told me SD18 & SD14 were going to his apartment for fathers day. So I just asked (after hearing him whispering to SD18 on the phone) what they had planned for the weekend. H replied -SD18 doesn't have a running vehicle, so I don't know if they'll come or not. So I asked him what???? I thought you fixed it yesterday. No. It's here at the shop, being repaired.

Which tells me H not only went to rescue SD18 Monday morning, but towed her car to a dealership for repair, and drove her home Monday. All kept from good 'ole Bewitched.

Thing is, I was feeling kind of bad about the fence. Because H was moaning and groaning about how sore, how tired he was from working on it all weekend. Not anymore. He actually spent more time on SD18's car than on the fence, and the fence still isn't finished. He missed a day of work because he spent the day Monday on SD18's car. Never mind the fact that we gave her a perfectly fine car a year ago. Nevermind the fact that she threw it in our faces, because it is her wish to have the sports car-that doesn't run.

The issue is this-H started the damned fence. H did not finish it because SD18 beckoned. H so obviously had all this planned out, and not a word to his actual, by law and in the eyes of God, wife. It's all about him and SD18 again, their little "tag team" crap. And whispering to her on the phone "she's still here".

I am not a mean, selfish person. I would never mind a father helping out his kid. But in return, she could've raked the area that has cement chunks needing to be removed. She could've helped him with the wire on the fence before he took her privileged ass home. But no. The only one required to work here is me, after I get off from my job.

So thank you H. Thank you SD18. I was feeling pretty soft towards H because of the fence-it's costing alot, and is hard work. But the display, the oh so obvious "we're keeping everything from Bewitched" between the two of them negated any softness I felt towards him.

Obviously he doesn't need a wife. He can get a hooker for the physical part-he's got SD18 for all the rest.