If you said that narcassits are more likely to be single or divorced then I could go with that as it probably inhibits their abilities to maintain a healthy relationship. However saying that single/divorced mothers are more likely to be narcasists is a bit of a leap for me. Admittedly I have no data to back up my guesses. 

So many narcs I know are in relationships. They are all over social media flaunting it. Wether or not these are happy, healthy relationships is an entirely different story. I do agree when narcs have kids it is to reflect themselves into their children 

I think it is the other way round: narcissists are more likely to be single/divorced (kids optional).
I don't think all single or divorced moms are narcissists - they could have been married to one and opted out, single parents by choice or there are a myriad of factors as to why they are single/divorced moms.
To me it is slightly crazy to lump all single moms in the same category under the umbrella of narcissist.
And not all single moms behave in the way you described above either.

I am far more likely to believe a narcissist has periods on their own (with or without children), when their current victim gets tired of their abusive sh!t and leaves - and they are on their own, prowling for the next unsuspecting victim
At heart these people are broken and everyone else is merely a decoration to use within their own self-centred universe.

I was a single-divorced mom for a while and it didn't go like that at all.

Letti's scenario is probably the most accurate hypothesis.

Definately not the case.  I was a single mother/divorced because my exh was an abusive narc....sometimes women get tired of their s**** and jump ship you know?

Plenty of narc men out there...in fact a LOT of narcs don't retain/want custody-in interferes in the ME time- they do like to display the kid as a trophy/instagram mom or dad for accolades though.

I believe that narcs can be anyone: every sex, every situation. Male, or female, single or partnered, breeder or childless. Some narcs DO want children and see their children as extensions of themselves (BioHo). Other narcs have children, but only consider them to be a REFLECTION of the narc - bad/good behavior reflects negatively/positively on the narc, which results in punishment/reward. Then there are narcs who simply cannot tolerate "sharing the spotlight" with anyone else - especially a child.

Narcs come in all shapes and sizes, but I believe they are born "broken". 

I raised healthy, productive kids as a single mom. I don’t think anybody would call me a narc. I had plenty of single-mom friends too. Some of their ex’s were narcs and they finally had enough. Some of their overindulged children turned out to be narcs though. 

Interesting theory, but I don’t see it working that way.  

Statistically, men are more likely to have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), while women have Borderline Personality Disorder more than men. Your above list fits my husband to the letter. 

He constantly says how much he hates his son (SS13) and wishes he was never born, but then turns around and tells someone SS13 has lied too, that they misunderstood SS13 or they didn’t make sure SS13 understood them. H has done this to me, SS13’s teachers who hold his grades accountable, and anyone SS13 is a jerk to. He’s an expert at gaslighting and stonewalling. He resolves nothing and has never admitted his behaviors are wrong.

H brags he’s a member of Mensa and “statistically smarter than the general population,” “rules don’t apply to him,” etc. H had me fooled as narcs do, the act and mirroring goes on for a few years till they have you hooked or trapped. The mask came off when I got pregnant and the layers are still being peeled off. 

People with NPD live in a self entitled victimhood constantly and can fool therapists into thinking they have just PTSD. When therapists start seeing them for what they are, narcs fire the therapist - which is why there’s no set statistic of percentage on who has it population wise.

My H sees his son as only his, he tried to eliminate the BM years ago and even joked about having her have “an accident” to his friends. He calls me vulgar names when he has narcissistic rage and tells me it’s my fault for triggering him. He’s wished me to die several times in the last year. I am leaving him as soon as I can, it is not easy to leave a narc. 

I recommend the book “Start Here” by Dana Morningstar. 

I mean, I was a divorced mom (guess I still am since I am divorced from my kids dad).

• I didn't have children to have a "mini me".
• Yes, there are a million reasons why our marriage didn't work out. My exH's new wife has called me to ask things in the past. My exH was very honest with her and so was I. She understands why things went south. She knows that he has now gotten the help that he needed. He is a much better man now than he was  when our marriage ended. He is a much better father. We are all right where we need to be. Both in happy marriages, both there for our kids. 
• I don't use my kids as "companions"- They are teens now, and there are things we like to do together. My son and I (and DH and SS) enjoy going to the movies. My daughter and I will have nail dates and we love us some brunch. When DH is away we tend to have a girls morning.
• DH and are considering with SS19 doing an adult adoption.
• My relationship with DH has nothing to do with what he give me. I provided for myself and my kids just fine. Infact, the only reason DH has 1/2 the stuff he has now is because of me. That doesn't even include the experiences he has had the last 4 years or our future plans. 

This was pretty insulting for any woman who has been divorced and has children.

HOWEVER- This is all BM2 to a T

No, they are not more likely to be narcissists.  Though certainly a single mom, just as anyone else, could be an narcissist. 

It is not a good idea to label an entire group as we learned in late grade school.  Stereotypes are by their existence, inaccurate.

Divorce can happen for any number of reasons. Some of those reasons may have nothing to do with the single mom and everything to do with her former partner.   Some single moms have a whoops baby and never planned on it.  As they say, shit happens. An unplanned out of wedlock pregnanacy does not necessarily imply that either bioparent is a nacissist.

The mettle of the single parent is how they parent and progress in their own life.  That is the litmus test of whether or not a single mom/parent is a narcissist.

IMHO of course.

They are not more likely to be narcissistic than anyone else. Narcissists come in all shapes and sizes and every walk of life. Some are single, some are divorced and some have been married for 30 years. Some have children and some do not. However if someone is single because they are extremely self centered and have rage issues then they are probably a narcissist. If someone has kids in order to gain supply from them, keep them company, fulfill their needs and mold them into mini me’s they are probably a narcissist. However not all parents are like this.

What absolute bollocks.
 

Anecdotal, but the vast majority of divorced/single moms I know are not narcissists.  I think your statement is a huge stretch and would not be backed up by facts.

If you said MAYBE single women who never want to get married or have a relationship and just have a child or a mini version of themselves that MIGHT be a possibility........ But where do you figure divorced single mother's  into your narcissist scenario? I think that is a little broad.  Most people are not divorced by choice circumstances lead them to either leave a marriage or someone left them  So they did not set out to be a divorced single parent and many don't want to take the leap again.