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HoneyLove16's picture

Quick background my husband and I been together for 8 years. He has for kids from a pervious relationship. I have two kids, one of them is ours. My husband 4 kids by his sister in law. We got married 3 years ago in march. 2 years the kids started to act very resentful. My husband live with quilt from leaving them. The mother made it to the kids that he Is an awful father. I'm feeling the backlash of it all. He constantly denies the guilt when I bring it up. He blames his self for breaking his family apart. That leave me in a bad situation. I tried to talk with him about it but it get no where. I very unhappy now. I dont know what to do. I dont want to be in a marriage where he feels guilty and bad for leaving another women. His family and kids hate. My husband left his ex for another woman. I wasnt the women. I'm so torn

tog redux's picture

4 stepkids is a lot - and throw in a nasty BM and a husband who feels bad for leaving his family and won't parent his kids, and you have disaster.  Plus the kids don't like you and his family doesn't?

I stuck around because DH was a good parent, and SS was decent, even if BM was crazy.

The only thing tying you to him is your kid together.  It seems that you have to decide if that's enough.

tog redux's picture

His sister's husband's sister.  So not really his sister-in-law.  His brother-in-law's sister.

HoneyLove16's picture

My husband sister is married to my husband baby mother brother. Yes it's a very odd situation.

HoneyLove16's picture

My husband sister is married to my husband baby mother brother. Yes it's a very odd situation

Lndsy747's picture

That sounds like a tough situation. Four step kids definitely is a lot and I'm sure it's a lot harder considering BMs family is also his family. 

Do you and your husband have issues together though or is this all about his family not accepting you? My boyfriend has a tough relationship with his mom which has led to issues with his sister so being with him isn't the happy family I imagined myself being a part of someday. He also has a teenage daughter who's been alienated by her mom. This does make me sad but it doesn't impact my relationship with him. 

I'd say if you have a good relationship with your husband and he's not willing to admit that there's any guilt or issues with his ex and kids from his previous marriage to just enjoy your time together.