Well, much like water things have a way of "balancing out".

- Munchkin SD13almost14 has been with us since April 14th, and Toxic Troll discussed and agreed that FOR NOW we can do a 2-week visitation schedule. She also discussed and agreed (FINALLY) that visitation schedul should change to week on/week off because 5 days on/off gets confusing. Because I am the only one that tracks anything on my calendar. And counting is HARD!

- Munchk and I have had many discussions and talks - she simply didnt realize that I needed that interaction from her (she was no contact leading me to think she was upset, which was not the case and she apologised.)

- Munchkin found nude photos of her sister, Feral Forger SD21, by accident, because there are multiple devices synched up at the apartment. Several. From the bathroom. Showing everything. Which lead to the discussion of what is appropriate within the confines of a committed relationship, and I just asked her about her feelings (no need to delve into that too much right?)  I just do not know how that affects things from a legal standpoint with a minor...

- Munchkin and I FINALLY had the big discussion that I have been skirting for a long time - her mother enabling her sister and her sister enabling her mother. Its been months now, and I have grown tired of the whole "my sister bullies my mother into this and that" litany of stories. From "we only eat fast food because my sister always tells my mother she should buy it, because remember when you beat me..." to her sister going out to be with her friends "because Im young and want to enjoy my life NOW". The drinking that shes allowed to do - meaning drinking with her friends and doing other drugs, coming back the apartment high and drunk and throwing up...

I finally was able, in a non-emotional way to connect the dots for Munchkin:

  1.  Her mother is NOT a victim, in any of this. 

   2. Her sister is allowed to do these things which are OBVIOUSLY bad and OBVIOUSLY negative and unhealthy, because thats what          MOM wants to do. MOM gets to go traveling down the coast to a resort town, obviously not alone, and goes places, so why would she keep Feral Forger from seeing her friends too. MOM is too lazy to shop, cook, and clean so she will buy the fast food as requested. Drinking? Well MOM drings ONLY 6 bottles in a week of wine so of course its ok for FF to do her own drinking.

  3. They enable each other to do what they want to do, which is go out, be with dudes, drink and eat junk, and who knows what else...

To my shock and wonderment, Munchkin agreed and said "you are right, I can see that now..."