I don't know what to do about my step son anymore. I've been with my husband for four years. My stepson is now 12. He is here every other weekend, and six weeks in the summer. My husband has a daughter who is 14 as well, and she's here the same amount of time. I have two biological daughters ages 10 and 11, and my husband and I have one son together who is one. My stepdaughter who is 14 is wonderful. I love her like my own and she gets along great and fits into our family wonderfully. She's helpful and I have no complaints. None of them are perfect children. My kids get in trouble too. My two daughters and our one-year-old son together live here full-time. My husband works 14 hour days five days a week, and this week his kids showed up for our six weeks for the summer. They have been here two days and I'm already losing my freaking mind. My stepson does not respect me in the least. He ignores anything I tell him to do. We have a farm, so we have a lot of animals to take care of. My 10 and 11-year-old daughters take care of the animals full-time during the year. But when my step kids are here I expect them to help. Today my stepson who is 12 was tasked with feeding the goats. He lied and said he did it, and then later my 11-year-old daughter came and told me that she is the one who did it because he didn't. You can't just not feed animals. They will die. He is 12 and he knows that.  Then I asked him to sweep the kitchen floor because they've been tracking dirt in the house all day, he swept about 3 square inches of it and then told me he was done and just vanished I was dealing with the baby and didn't have time to go after him.  He literally argues with people all day long and if you ask him to do anything it's a huge battle. If I want him to put his clothes away in his dresser I literally have to stand in his doorway and watch him do it or it won't get done. Again, he is 12. TWELVE!!!  This is absurd. My two daughters have been doing basic things like this for years. And yes, sometimes they lie and sometimes they don't do a good job and I have to get on them. They're still kids. My stepson also sneaks food even though he has been told numerous times that he is allowed to have something if he just asks. He will literally get up at two in the morning and raid my kitchen and take everything to his room and then I will find wrappers of all kinds of things Stashed around the house. It only happens when he is here.  Tonight I went to get a drink out of the refrigerator in my bare feet, and when I stepped on the rug in front of the fridge my foot was soaking wet. Somebody had spilled an entire pitcher of lemonade all over my kitchen floor and the rug was completely soaked and the whole floor was sticky. There were dirty footprints all over it. These kinds of things do not happen when my stepson is not here. And he has a habit of spilling things because he is very clumsy. I can't tell you how many times he spilled drinks on my kitchen floor in front of us, and he has to be told to clean it up because he will just leave it there. So I know it was him. I brought all four kids into the kitchen and asked who did it and they all told me none of them did it, but I know all of our children and I know it was him. He wouldn't make eye contact with me and he darted out of the room to his bedroom. I got mad and started cleaning up the mess, my daughters could tell I was mad and offered to help. Meanwhile my husband started making comments about how he should just send him back to his moms because he's not wanted here and some other nonsense like that.  That's his go to. He always brings that up and says things like that whenever I get mad about my stepson doing things. He literally destroys my house. He has no respect. I've been picking up those free school lunches, and in the two days that they have been here there are like 100 empty school milk carton's all over my backyard. My daughters don't drink milk outside so I know they didn't do it.  He leaves his clothes all over my bathroom floor and water all over the floor, he leaves towels all over the house. He will eat lunch and leave all of the stuff at the table like I'm his maid and I'm supposed to clean up after him. I am on him all day every day making him do things to clean up after himself.  We are constantly buying him new shoes because he leaves his out in the rain and they get ruined. Or he'll lose one of them and doesn't know where it is. His socks all have holes or stains of black mud because he runs around the backyard with no shoes on. I am so tired of wasting money on this kid because he doesn't respect anything.   It's getting really old. I have six more weeks of this to deal with. I'm going to lose my mind. My husband constantly just makes comments about how my daughters must be perfect then and then we only have these problems when his son is around so everything is his sons fault. He's very sarcastic about it. I think he has dad guilt majorly.  I like the idea of disengaging from him but it's not fair to the other kids. So I'm supposed to let the only boy sit in his room and do whatever he wants all day while the three girls do all the farm chores and clean up the house and help around the yard? That's not fair. Why does one kid get to get out of doing things but the other ones have to do stuff? And I'm not raising my kids to be a bunch of lazy loser so they're going to do chores. I am sick and tired of fighting with this kid. I am sick and tired of having to stand there and monitor everything he does all day. I have a one-year-old and I'm a full-time student, I don't have time for this nonsense. I'm home all the time now because of the pandemic, but my husband is working longer hours. So he's never here. By the time he gets home at night the kids go to bed about an hour later  He doesn't even spend any time with them. I can't just leave his mess lying around the house because there are seven people in my house, and we are short on space. If he leaves all of his food on the dining room table from lunch then where are we going to eat dinner? If he leaves all of his clothes all over the (only one) bathroom floor, that gets in the way of me bathing my baby.  I just don't know what to do anymore. I enjoy having my step daughter here, she gets along great with everybody and like I said she is very helpful. It's just my stepson. My step daughter tells me when they're at their house his mom basically ignores him and he spends all of his time in his room doing whatever he wants all the time. I think his mom is completely given up on. I can't say I blame her either.