OT husband forgot my birthday

It's 11am and he is in the basement working on a project with his friend and hasn't acknowledged it's my birthday. He did cook breakfast but that was because we had leftovers which could be used for one of his recipes.

It's not like he totally forgot. He took off work this past week and the next one and told me he was taking off for my birthday because he had vacation time to burn. BTW I'm still working so my response was "oh that's nice what are you going to do?" He said he wanted to make me something so hopefully that's what he and his friend are doing in the basement. Still, it's not fun to spend my birthday alone with the baby. A gift from my dad arrived in the mail yesterday so that should have been a reminder. Usually we tell each other happy birthday (or happy whatever holiday!) First thing when we wake up.

I'm going to go shop for some stuff for my daughter. I guess I'm one of those mom's that kills time at Target now.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!!!!!

He didnt forget, he just thinks making breakfast and taking off is enough. Yooohooo downstairs and tell him you are ordering take out at 4pm FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY dinner and he has to go pick it up. ???

I'm sorry, I can tell your feelings are hurt.

Some men think fixing stuff (basement project) is what women want. Some think taking off work and making breakfast is enough.

Sometimes we have to tell husbands what we realllly want. They usually, very quickly, want to make that happen.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY

I am always surprised that I

I am always surprised that I have to remind my husband to say the customary greetings on special days...happy birthday...happy christmas...happy anirversary....etc. It is not that he forgets the day, just that he doesn't place as much importance on the greeting as I do. I don't feel acknoledged until he has said the magic words. Even when he proposed I had to tell him to ask "will you marry me"!!

I am used to it and just remind him. It is irrational in someways that I need to correct magic words spoken and am not satisfied with the other things he does for special days so I am ok with reminding him and he is good at accepting my reminders graciously and giving me what I want.

He can't read your mind. As

He can't read your mind. As stated in above posts your needs and desires need to be stated very plainly to DH. Some people aren't as sentimental and gushy as we'd like them to be. The sentiment I've read in a few marriage manuals is "He's not one of your girlfriends! Don't expect him to act like it." If you want him to make a fuss you're going to have to do a SeeYouNever birthday countdown... 7 days until SYN's Birthday! Also let him know what makes you feel special.

I never assume my DH knows what I want or will remember anything. I'm always direct about what I'd like for gifts and occassions. I'm also a planner so we'll plan out in advance what's going on on our special days.

He usually asks me in the

He usually asks me in the weeks leading up. It's very unlike him to just forget.

I have to say, my DH is good

I have to say, my DH is good about remembering my birthday. I don't really care about birthdays, so I usually just request that we go out to dinner - but one year he surprised me with a portrait of my dog that was wonderful.

I don't really get guys who can just forget such a thing, and in your case, he didn't forget because he mentioned it recently. So, maybe he is planning something special.

At any rate, Happy Birthday!

Well it's 3:30 and he still

Well it's 3:30 and he still hasn't acknowledged it yet. Still in the basement with his friend.

My daughter and I did go get ice cream, which was very nice.

Well it's 3:30 and he still

Well it's 3:30 and he still hasn't acknowledged it yet. Still in the basement with his friend.

My daughter and I did go get ice cream, which was very nice.

That sucks. Honestly, I'd go

That sucks. Honestly, I'd go down in the basement and ask DH if he forgot something. Seriously. Embarass him in front of his friend.

Yeah, this isn't some "he can

Yeah, this isn't some "he can't read your mind!" moment or has he "forgotten." These are the excuses WE women give them for being inconsiderate assholes. A lot of men slack off and do the bare minimum in the relationship because they get away with it...