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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Mon, 08/03/2020 - 9:48am

Thank you all for your advice and sharing your experiences.  I knew I was right to be leary of SD's sudden interest (and enlightenment) in possibly moving in with daddy to escape the wrath of BM.  Her big sob story and how "evil" BM was occured on Thursday.  By the time SD showed up Friday for her visit and BM had returned her prized possession (her iphone) and there was ZERO talk/mention of BM being mean or wanting to move in with daddy. 

I'm super glad that I didn't say anything to SD that she could run home and twist and tell BM.  This was 100% a case of her being punished and not liking it so threatening BM to move in with daddy. 

If DH brings SD moving in again or any of this nonsense I will tell him the same thing I did this time.  He can file for custody pro se.  I'm not wasting my time and money on her little teenage fits.  She belongs with BM.  There is NO hope for this one. Total emeshment.  Also BM is all about buying love which isn't how our home operates so BM is probably right SD would hate living with us and having to do chores and not being spoiled like she is with mommy. 

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Submitted by JRI on Mon, 08/03/2020 - 10:42am

As a SM, its so hard to uphold a crazy BM.  But, so often, that's what we have to do.  The kids are doing what kids do, playing one parent against the other to get what they want.  They throw in a hard luck story, tell us how mean and crazy BM is and we are often mistakenly ready to solve all problems by having them move in.  Its hard not to "bite" and its really hard not to badmouth BM and uphold her authority.  Congratulations!

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Mon, 08/03/2020 - 10:54am

You are so right!  Being a SM is not easy.  I'm pretty relieved that it only took SD one day to flop right back to being BM's minion.  That way DH didn't get his hopes up to high for her to move in.  SD is really great at playing DH against BM and vice versa b/c they have allowed it.  Their hatred of each other has blinded them both from being good parents.  SD didn't have to tell me how crazy BM.  I already knew that much, lol! 

It does piss me off to know that BM is constantly badmouthing us.  I already figured as much but it still irks me.  Especially since I never talk poorly about BM to SD.  I'm sure idiot DH has said idiot things about BM but he generally tries not to either. 

The best part of this update is that I am now sure she won't ever really want to move in and since she is a mini BM.  Next time it comes up I can remind DH how easily she flipped back to wanting to stay with her mommy.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Mon, 08/03/2020 - 12:54pm

A dog will return to its own vomit? Yep, the mothership calls.  Hopefully she will stay with BM permamently and not get chucked out whenever CS stops.

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Mon, 08/03/2020 - 1:15pm

Hahahaha, OMG, perfect analogy and so true!  BM only decided she needed CS when she found out I was pregnant.  Heaven forbid a new baby take any money that could possibly go to spoiling SD more.  I don't think that will cause her to throw her out.  BM is all about control.  The only reason SD would leave BM is if SD REALLY wanted to.  Now I know that she is just using a new manipulation tactic.  I won't feel bad when/if she brings it up again. 

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Mon, 08/03/2020 - 2:00pm

Hahaha, yeah, it was a scare but thankfully very short lived.  In less than 24 hours she was no longer interested in moving in.  I'm sure my poor delusional DH is still thinking she might want to Dash 1