I just had a huge blow up with my boyfriend last night about his BS's (9) behaviour. I don't live with my boyfriend (thankfully because I would lose my mind) but spend soooooo much time at his house and am always told that it is my home as well. I'm starting to realize that it isn't the case and that I have no say at all in what happens there.

So my boyfriend was unloading a peice of machinery from the back of his truck. It was parked on the grass in his back yard and he was about to drive off to park it back in the driveway after we unloaded it. We have a very playful puppy that we got together a year ago and I was holding on to her collar and telling her to stay with me so that she didn't run infront of his truck as he drove away. The son saw me holding the dog and purposely called her to chase after him...right in the path of the truck. Now I rarely say anything to him about anything that he does, but as I was holding the dog, her collar broke off and I was holding on to her neck and he's still calling her to chase after him, even after he heard me tell her to stay. All that I said was "don't call her to chase after you!". I didn't scream at the top of my lungs or swear. I was firm. I think I had every right to do it! An aduly should be able to call a child out if it could potentially be a safety issue. Anyway....he ran off to his room and cried at the top of his lungs. His Dad went into the house to 'console' him because he treats him like a baby and told me that I yelled at him and he is now upset. Kidding me?? He says that his some is sensitive....I think that he is entitled and gets upset when he gets called out for poor behaviour. 

This kid is very defiant, rude and disrespectful. He does not listen well at all. He says 'NO' to his Dad alot which is a huge deal to me. Kids who talk back like that irk me bigtime. My DD (9) would never do that kind of stuff. She is in no means perfect, but she is not disrespectful. His Dad will tell him to go and have a shower as it is close to bedtime and the kid says no. Before this incident took place, we were driving and he was sitting in the front seat of the truck and for about 10-12 minutes, changed the channel of the radio every 3 seconds. He does stuff like this on purpose just to annoy others. Well, his Dad just lets him do it. No account of how his behaviour affects others around. I sat there and looked out the window and bit my tongue because if he is called out on his behaviour, he has a meltdown and throws a tantrum. He talks CONSTANTLY....has even followed his Dad to the washroom talking to him the whole way and then continues on when he gets out, he fidgits his hands, flails his arms, squirms and moves ALOT. We can't watch a show all together because he provides commentary and talks through the whole thing. My boyfriend allows this to happen. Again....not taking into account how his sons behaviour affects others. He is very socially behind in my opinion and no word of a lie, has no friends. I've told my boyfriend that I think he has ADHD. Truthfully, I think he may be on the autism spectrum....though I'm no professional, its kindof apparent that something is up with him.

Anyway, our blow up resulted in me driving an hour at 9pm, back to my house to sleep in my own bed and away from the chaos. But it has left me wondering (for quite a while now), if this is worth it. I can't stand the kid. I hate myself for saying this but I cringe when I know I have to be around him......this has been an issue for quite some time and I wonder if it is even worth it any more. The stress and anxiety that is causes me is incredible. I can't even describe how awful it feels to be around him. Unbearable.

I've posted on here previously....I think I just need to vent and maybe here that I'm not a horrible b*tch but a frustrated person who just wants a bit of peace in my relationship.