As a good friend once said to me. He who cares less always wins. Well as SO reached his usual point of completely losing his mind after a visit from OSD. I pushed back with total and complete disregard for SO or his feelings.  I unleashed a storm of harsh truths on him, because I will not partake in his craziness for one more minute.

The final straw was after lavishing SD with $750 worth of gifts and YSD only $200. I saw he bought OSD a candle and said absolutely not!!! She will burn the house down. SO lost his mind as if not giving OSD this $10 candle would be difference in her finally seeing how amazing he is and loving him. 

First to punish him for his stupidity I used his credit card to buy twatwaffle a much more expensive essential oil diffuser, because I will be laughing later on while he is paying off all the debt he racked up buying her love, just like last time. 

Then I let SO know that he is the one who makes this house not " our home" because he willfully disregards every single persons feelings and comfort in lieu of kissing SDs butt. Making it clear to everyone who lives here including his other daughter that the only person who matters is OSD. 

He is willing to let his GF be arrested and criminally charged rather than confront SD about her drinking in the house. He willing to risk the loss of my house and the lives of the other children, rather than not give SD a $10 candle. He is willing to let SD be loud, rude and obnoxious when she is here to the point no one else feels comfortable being here and leaves. 

He tried to defend himself, by saying I do talk to her and  yell at her for her behavior. I LOL!!!! I told him no you do not. You stand there like a pathetic excuse of a man, with your head down and your tail between your legs. While you are being belittled and verbally abused by a 14 year old. 

You want to tell me you don't like the way I talk to you!! You are insane, and have a toxic, co dependent relationship with your abusive daughter. She is not normal, she has mental health issues and you living in denial will only continue to perpetuate that. In years to come you will have no one but your self to blame for her self destructive behavior. 

You (SO) on the other hand I have lost all respect for you as a man. It's sad and pathetic to watch a grown man cower to a 14 year old child, afraid if he says anything she might get mad at him and leave and ghost him. Then return a few months later after you have " learned your lesson" giving you the opportunity to buy her love with lavish gifts, to which you jump in the opportunity. Because if you show her how wonderful you are she may finally see it and love you. 

I feel much better now, SO not so much but I don't care. He is going to have to put in the work, because everything I said was exactly how I feel. I may love him, he is a good man, but I no longer respect him and it's hard to be attracted to someone you don't respect.