After the drama of 2019- I wasn't so sure things could get any worse. They did. My God, they did. 

In January of 2020 SD came back home. Things were progressing nicely. She seemed to make real progress. I suspect it was actually just an improvement in her manipulating skills. Then November 2020 came around....

My nephew (17) came to live with us following my brother's divorce. I had a very close relationship with my nephew (he lived with me until he was seven) until SD decided to revert back to old ways. 

The day after Thanksgiving I found my nephew and SD having sex. Naturally, we asked my nephew to leave. He apologized and left. SD (15) went into complete meltdown. We had police involved roughly every four days for a few weeks. These aren't normal teenage girl meltdowns. These are a whole other level of absolute misery. You should hear the girl's mouth. Journal entries about how she wants to murder us.... Eventually the police hospitalized her when she told them she was pregnant by her "cousin". She wasn't pregnant. She was carrying around a negative pregnancy test (saw it with my own eyes)and making lists for her "baby". I honestly was terrified for my nephew after the way she was acting. I really believe she believed she was pregnant.She thought telling the police she was pregnant would result in my nephew coming back to stay in our home. She informed us of such. Said we should let them live together and when she was 18 they would leave. Can you even imagine??? Instead police opened a sex abuse investigation on my nephew. This caused so much family turmoil. My brother's ex wife ( pretty sure she was raised in a barn) was snapping her teeth at me like a cornered feral cat. My brother was worried sick. I was livid. My poor husband was in shock. What a mess....

Well, when that didn't work and the hospital convinced SD that she was not pregnant-  she called cps and reported us for child abuse. My husband and I decided when we picked her up from the hospital to drive her back to her mother's. We threw her clothes into laundry baskets. Told her we were going to her grandma's and just started driving. We drove 9 hours there and dropped her off. Mom wasn't too happy. Neither was cps. 

CPS has charged us with neglect for bringing her to mother. We are disputing it, but honestly I would proudly take that one on the chin if it means freedom from this little girl. My own daughter is 18 years old. My step son too. My youngest step son moved with my mother in law a while ago...So, I am really not concerned. After the misery of raising my step children I would never want a career working in any capacity with children anyway.....God no. 

It has taken weeks just to calm down from all of the emotions I had after this one. I've decided that I can no longer have a relationship of any kind with my SD. I've changed my phone number and my email.. Unfortunately - I no longer trust my nephew and will be stepping back from that relationship as well. 

2021 is looking up. It has been so quiet. No police. No ex wife calling. No visits to mental health. My husband sends a check off on the 1st of the month and so far- things have been so nice. I know it will be short lived. I give SD four months before her mother is calling. But, this time we are "neglectful". She can't come here this time. If my attorney gets the neglect reversed- we plan on never letting her mother know. She can think we are neglectful. That's fine. 

Anyway- I just wanted to let you all know to hang in there. The day will come it is you and your husband/wife/ partner and grown children or no children-  and that day is worth it. I am so fortunate that my husband has finally had his fill of this girl's drama- for real this time. He won't even speak to her.  The bs neglect charge was 1000% worth it. So is the child support mom demanded ( after she never paid a dime for any of her children that I helped raise- owes us over $8,000 in arrears...).