DH talks to the school counselor
So the update to my last 2 blogs if anyone is interested.
DH called the assistant principal and talked to her and then talked directly to the counselor. The counselor apologized for how the emails came across. She said that BM had indeed set up the counseling all on her own for SDs "self esteem issues" and threw in the crap about our house with that. Apparently SD still has attention seeking behaviors at school (shocking). Such as not allowing other kids to talks, only her, blurting out for attention, etc. So the teachers must have complained about that at some point to BM and BM decided to make it DHs fault.
After DH explained his side, the counselor said she understood and didn't want to be involved in any manipulation so she would email DH separately from BM.
I guess we'll see how it goes. Luckily she's only here 2 more weekends before school is out and then she'll be in a different school next year.
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Why am I not surprised? Sigh.
Why am I not surprised? Sigh...
Glad that was clarified. Hopefully, things will be better next school year.
She's had the exact same
She's had the exact same attention seeking behaviors since kindergarten so I can't imagine it'll be better in that aspect. And I'm sure next year it will be because DH has now "abandoned" SD.
Sorry - I meant that I hope
Sorry - I meant that I hope the new school does not readily fall for that dramatic caca.
Oh yes me too. BM lives in
Oh yes me too. BM lives in one of the poorest school districts in her town so I would guess there's more problems to attend to but who knows. If SD goes to school in BMs district next year I mean. Which I'm assuming she will since she has her fulltime
Good for him. I'm glad she
Good for him. I'm glad she had an open mind, maybe this will teach her not to trust what every mother says.
Yes, hopefully she's learned
Yes, hopefully she's learned to get info from both parent's first now. Idk how BM even worked that into the convo because it doesn't make a lot of sense to me. Supposedly this is all because SD has self esteem issues, which I have doubts about, I think she's selfish and has entitlement issues. But whatever I guess, the behaviors are getting addressed. I'd be shocked if anything changes just from talking to the school counselor though.
"Her father doesn't pay any
"Her father doesn't pay any attention to her on his weekends, I think that's a big part of her self- esteem issues. She just plays on her tablet all weekend and doesn't do any homework."
It's being framed to DH as
It's being framed to DH as "SD doesn't come out of her room" but yeah I'd guess what BM actually said is more along those lines.
The counselor does believe that she has self esteem issues and genuinely wants to spend more time with DH. Which is sure contrary to how she acts when she's here.
If the counselor had actually
If the counselor had actually taken the time to contact DH from the onset all of this probably could have been avoided. While I understand being overwhelmed and school systems being overloaded it's still the counselors job to get both sides of the story, not just take what the BM says as gospel and run with it.
I can't believe she's meeting
I can't believe she's meeting with her weekly for this crap, tbh, with how many students there are in the school.
And yes I feel like it should have been obvious to get the other side of the story when there's supposedly only issues at the others house.
I don't think the counselor
I don't think the counselor is meeting with SD about home issues. I think the counselor started meeting with SD about the school issues as what you describe is disrupting in the classroom. BM had to sign for this counseling and most likely threw DH under the bus as the cause when she signed.
I also think this counselor has a poor understanding of what her job is. The email to DH is beyond the scope of a school counselor.
The counselor said BM did
The counselor said BM did request to set up the counseling.
Back in January, before the counseling started, BM had messaged DH that SD is only allowed at our house once a month unless DH goes to counseling with her. And then this "self esteem" counseling started a couple weeks later. So I'm not sure how that all goes together in conjuction with the classroom issues, but the counselor did confirm it was BMs idea.
Either the classroom teacher messaged BM and she got upset and took it out on DH, or something else triggered her and she threw it all together.
I also agree that it is beyond her scope.
Hey, thank you for the update
Hey, thank you for the update. Your situation was unsettling to me.
I am so sorry about all of this.
What does sd to at bm's house...I bet the very same thing she does at dh's.
Hang in there. Again I am sorry.
Hwo old is sd?
At BMs house it sounds like
At BMs house it sounds like she also spends most of her time on her tablet. However, she has more unrestricted access to the internet there, which is what she wants at our house and isn't happening.
SD will be 10 in a couple months.