UPFRONT NOTE: I am not talking about abuse here. Before anyone starts down the victim-blaming line of thinking, that's not where I'm going with this.

Now, time for a Lt. Dad's fireside announcement, because there is no chat or back-and-forth with this.

Your partner treats you like crap because you keep allowing them to treat you like crap.

They move their kid into your house, and all you can muster is a fight? Their kids are stealing from you? Being disrespectful in how they all talk to you? Disregard your feelings and don't take any opinion you have into consideration?

Solution: Lowes sells moving boxes for $2 a piece, and you can find packing tape at any store. If you're a bargain hunter like me, heavy-duty trash bags are even cheaper AND hold more crap.

DO. NOT. ACCEPT. THIS. TREATMENT.

If they don't learn and change their behavior to not a-holes the FIRST time you bring it up, then you don't let it get to a second. They treat you like crap because there is no consequence. They CAN be an a-hole to you and not expend the energy to be a good person to you because you allow it. 

STOP. ALLOWING. IT.

It is better to be single than subjugated to disrespect, belittling, and disregard that eventually BECOMES abuse, and eventually erodes your own self-esteem, self-confidence, and just self.

Go open you a Tik Tok account, go find you some Madam Adam, and listen to their daily mantras about being powerful, enough, and a bad b*tch. The chaos you're allowing for yourself is NOT needed or worth a partner. If they aren't building you up, then they shouldn't have the opportunity to tear down the work YOU do for yourself.