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secret's picture

Submitted by secret on Fri, 10/22/2021 - 3:12pm

Well, the day came when they repossessed the SUV. I knew it was coming, so I already had a back up plan... no skin off my back for that.

However.. since I'm now making claims of my own, I need to file an amended application.. and I need consent to do so... and I'm not getting it. Denied.

I've now hired a lawyer... 

It's a shitshow. The other lawyer demanded I return the suv to him.. but.. um.. well, I don't have it. Lol

Waiting to hear back in next steps.. my lawyer has now taken the steps to book the case conference, and we're gonna have to file some motion to allow me to file an amended application. 

I don't think I can roll my eyes further back.

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Exjuliemccoy's picture

Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Fri, 10/22/2021 - 5:19pm

I'm sorry your ex is being such a butthead.

I don't understand what you said about claims, consent, and applications. Can you explain?

secret's picture

Submitted by secret on Fri, 10/22/2021 - 5:58pm

I filed a divorce application. Form 8a.

He filed his answer.

I can fike a reply... with form 10a.. but if I use that form, I can't make any new claims. To make new claims, I have to file an amended form 8a.

Claims include things like payment, support, debt, life insurance... the things I want the court to order, basically.. and he won't let me.

a different way to get that, is to ask the courts permission... but we need to go through the case conference to get that done. Just long and convoluted. A refusal of consent for this is rare I'm told... then again, he's convinced he's getting at least a quarter milliom

Winterglow's picture

Submitted by Winterglow on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 6:55am

Can you ask for him to be ordered to cover your legal costs seeing as he's the one dragging this out?

secret's picture

Submitted by secret on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 8:42am

Yes

I want to include costs, unequal division of equity, reimbursement for reno materials, cost if contractor to replace and fix his shituty work, reimbursement of my deposit on the suv, and to consider June 2020 as date of separation.. 

 

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Submitted by Cover1W on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 11:49am

My sister's ex pulled this crap on her. Instead of hiring a lawyer she went through a divorce mediator. Her ex agreed after he figured out how much a lawyer costs.

A mediator won't make decisions but will explain legalities to both sides and assist with correct paperwork. 

I went through one too for my divorce from stupid ex who didn't want to work with anyone and they handled it brilliantly.

secret's picture

Submitted by secret on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 2:26pm

The lawyer I hired specializes in this nonsense. I'm not super worried... more about the dragging out aspect of it than the financial aspect of it

Livingoutloud's picture

Submitted by Livingoutloud on Fri, 10/22/2021 - 7:09pm

You were married for only a few years. Where he gets the idea that you two accumulated such huge assets, it's ridiculous. I have hard time understanding it. 

secret's picture

Submitted by secret on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 8:43am

My area is high value. My house is worth quite a bit. He's convinced he's getting half...period. Not just half the gained equity... lol 

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Submitted by shamds on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 6:03am

Yet alone a vindictive ex hubby.

you might if you have kids from that marriage/relationship and they need to be provided for and the stay at home ex etc. But not screw ex back. 
 

op, was your ex husband the guy that wanted you 2 to get back together again and he's remove his claims for half of your assets?

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Submitted by Livingoutloud on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 6:09am

He could ask for a half of what was accumulated in those few years, which can't be that much. Like half of what was accumulated in some retirement funds amd equity etc Not half of everything. Where are these extravagant amounts come from. Dude isn't too bright, is he?

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 6:28am

OP says she works in the film industry - perhaps she has a lot of money or he thinks she does/should?

Livingoutloud's picture

Submitted by Livingoutloud on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 6:40am

I don't think they were married long enough for spousal support. Having loads of money doesn't necessarily equates to giving it to a spouse in divorce. But of course if she makes truly loads of money then sure maybe, it just doesn't ever look or sound  that OP is very wealthy but I might be wrong 

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 7:25am

I suppose if she made tons on a film while they were married, he'd be entitled to some of it, not as monthly support but as division of assets. 
 

I don't know either, I'm going on the film comments from OP, but lots of people make films and get paid very little. 

secret's picture

Submitted by secret on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 8:49am

Yeah the film stuff isn't enough to get by on by any means. Support wise, according to the tables I'd be paying him about 250$ a month on the high end... for about 2 years... lol

It's a pittance really. 

Straight division of equity etc.. I'd pay out about 34k. I'm asking for total of 39k... with him owing me the 5k difference.. but I'm also including that I'm willing to waive it all for a simple divorce order and transfer of suv ownership. I have 24 days left for that one if I'm to get it back

secret's picture

Submitted by secret on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 8:45am

I'm actually in HR... but I dabble a little in film now and then. Low budget indie stuff. I make a good salary... and he seems to think I make more than I do.

tog redux's picture

Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 9:03am

Well, he sounds like the typical High conflict ex. Wants to clean you out and/ or live off of your hard work forever.  At least in my DH's situation, the asset division didn't allow any negotiation really, though they didn't have a ton.  BM wasn't happy about DH getting some of her retirement savings but she wasn't able to stop it. 

secret's picture

Submitted by secret on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 2:28pm

Yeah I mean fair is fair... but my equity really hasn't gone up much as compared to what it should have, specifically because if some of the bs that's happened over the last while. 

secret's picture

Submitted by secret on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 2:30pm

I think it's just funny though in a way... he never believed me when I said our monthly expenses were 4k a month... now he's trying to say, from his Financials, that his expenses are 5500 a month lmao

 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 10/25/2021 - 8:32am

You might remember BM here drug their divorce out for 6 years! She thought she was getting 1/2 Million. DH owns oil stocks that are worth quite a bit, and then his retirement. He moved his stocks to his mom when his much younger sister was in college so she could use the monthly payout to help and then when SS went to live with her he left them in her name. 

Yes, DH has that much technically, but that was given to him back when his parents were in the business and he was like 7 and they aren't in his name anymore. She isn't entitled to shit, and he kept her out of his retirement too since they weren't married for 10 years. 

I don't understand the greed that comes with divorce!