This is where my bride is now.  She has finished her first week at her new firm. A truly professional, talent filled, quality environment.

"They even have documented procedures and everyone has to comply with them. The work product quality is amazing!"  

She spent many hours writing them for her old firm. Only to have them criticized by the minions who have been at the old firm for countless  years.  She was the only one who ever used them. Her product quality, realization, and efficiency were orders of magnitude better than anyone else at the old firm.

Her peaceful calm beautiful countenance is returning to her face and to our lives.

She is still having some occassional anxiety about leaving her old team mates. But, she is already so much better.

When we reach the point of the unbullshitified life transition in a blended family marriage. That is when true change happens. One way or the other.