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Skids destructive behaviour

Mumofsix22's picture

Good morning all,

how do we deal with Skids who destroy my bio child's things? 
 

there's been some jewellery of mine that was broken over the years and some of my daughters things. Recently some bits like a mirror and pens that she kept in a bag which she cried about (she's 8). Then this morning I noticed a photograph of her and me and my partner and his daughter from our holiday this summer that was on her shelf and she had scratched out my daughters face. 
 

if I try to talk about it to OH he doesn't have a solution other than "what did you do first" spoke to my parent who's attitude is "well they're kids" so where does that leave me as her primary caregiver? 

Harry's picture

Then SD gets punished..  If SO doesn't like it.  He finds  another caregiver.  He can't have jt both ways  doing nothing and excepting others to do nothing too.  You have a SO problem first. 

ESMOD's picture

It's not abnormal for things to happen with kids.. stuff gets broken.. kids are taught about respecting others belongings.. given consequences.. apologizing.. replacing item etc..

I would have a different feeling on intentional vs accidental destruction.  A scratched out face on a personal photo is imho worse than being careless with a pen.  Your DH should be giving his child some consequence for that... losst screen time and loss of other benefit or privelege.. also be made to apologize to the victim..

Stepdrama2020's picture

Go full on savage and damage theirs.

Only kidding..kind of sort of.

Seriously you take care of it. Dont leave it to DH their defender.

Show no mercy. Call them out on it.

notarelative's picture

if I try to talk about it to OH he doesn't have a solution other than "what did you do first" 

You have a major OH problem. 

simifan's picture

I would give your SO a choice of two ways to handle it. Either he punishes his child or both children get carte blanche and you won't be paying for anything BD breaks in retaliation. Then I'd tell BD "you take down the bully by hitting hard & fast"  and for her to destroy SD's favorite item & do this until she stops destroying BD's things.